Dream Interpretation: I Had a Baby in the Middle of Menopause

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I’m in my forties and well past child bearing age as I’m going thru the menopause. In my dream I was with a male friend who died back in 2009. I was sat on his sofa when this baby boy popped out of me, I was looking down at him and could see the baby’s private parts and thought, “Oh, it’s a boy.” He was still attached to me. Aome minutes passed and the baby was still attached, then the male friend walked back in the room and seemed surprised to see me still sitting there. I told him to pass me the baby as he needed changing and the man gave me the baby and passed me some paper to clean the mud — yes, mud! — off the baby’s arm pits. I noticed the baby felt cold, so cuddled him and felt the blood trickle out of me. I thought, “Shouldn’t the placenta be coming out now?”

Lauri: Going through “the change” is a big big deal for many women and can affect so many parts of your life, so it is very common to have dreams that are not only symbolic of the change but are also helping you cope with it.

The male friend in your dream may seem random, but I assure you he is there for a reason. Ask yourself what else stands out about him. How did he make you feel about yourself? Is there a quality he possessed that could be helpful to you right now? He is someone that has recently passed, so he may represent this part of your life that is beginning to pass away.

The baby boy you give birth to is symbolic of this new post menopausal phase of life that is emerging. Many women who have gone through menopause, when it is all said and done, say it is refreshing and like a rebirth. The baby remains attached to you throughout the dream. That seems to suggest that you may still be emotionally and psychologically attached to your uterus and the idea of still being able to produce a baby. Losing that ability, even if you don’t want any more children, is still a difficult thing to part with.

And notice how the baby needs changing… that is because YOU are changing. Your body is, and so this dream is trying to help your mind catch up to the change. And I believe that is where the mud comes in. Dirt and mud in a dream often symbolize depression and negativity, that which dirties up an otherwise clean psyche. The mud is in the arm pits because you may feel that this change “stinks” and is “the pits,” so to speak.

But it seems you are beginning to clean up that attitude. At the end of the dream you are waiting for the placenta because in real life you are waiting for this change to be complete. The placenta coming out is the final phase of birth and I believe in this dream it means you are close to reaching the final phase of menopause, so hang in there. Just as giving birth is all about bringing a brand new life into the world, in a dream it is all about a brand new life for you!

Dreamer’s response: I’ve read your interpretation and it’s all true! I don’t want any more children, but do sometimes wish I could have another, and do hope for a end to this menopause — I’ve been going through it for nearly 10 years now and it drives me batty.

The male friend was quite stand-offish in my dream , like it was all matter of fact, he wasn’t happy but acted like it was normal to be giving birth on his sofa. When he walked back into the room he seemed almost disgusted that I was still there, and because the baby started crying he had picked him up and was rocking him to stop him crying and was fast losing his patience with the baby, so I told him to pass him to me as he needing changing — that’s when he passed me the paper bags for me to wash the mud off.

Your interpretation all makes sense: I want a new life, so to speak, and need to change , so this must be what the dream means.

My latest dream was once again about pregnancy , this time I did a pregnancy test and it was positive. I had a scan in the dream but the midwife said she couldn’t see the baby yet but that was early days and the baby would show itself when it wanted to. I asked if I needed another scan and she said, no, you will soon know if you’re pregnant or not. I walked away talking to my latest partner saying, I don’t know how I’m pregnant — I’m not having periods and you can’t have any kids.

Anyway, thank you very much for your feedback, I’d say you were spot on!

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