Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I just got married for the second time on Dec 4th. Last night I had a dream that my husband and I got separated after the wedding. He and some of the guests ended up at the reception, while I and some of the guests ended up at home. With me was my best friend Scott, and his mother and sister. Scott is a guy I met through my other best friend (who is also a guy) in high school. I fell for Scott instantly, but he didn’t see it that way. For most of high school I was in love with him. Nothing ever happened between us, but we did get really close as friends. He’s now like a brother to me, in fact I call him and my other best friend my brothers and they call me their sister. In the dream, we all got snowed in. We could get out of the house, but the roads and airports were closed down for the night. After finding everyone a place to sleep, I trudged to my room, exhausted and crying due to having to spend my wedding night alone. In my room I found Scott laying in my bed, fully clothed. “Crap. I gotta find a place for you to sleep,” I told him through my tears. He shook his head and beckoned me over to him. Not wanting to fight with him, I crawled in bed and lay in his arms, my head on his chest. My crying subsided after a while and I’d almost fallen asleep when Scott lifted my head. He looked at me and said “You should have married me,” and kissed me. The next thing I know, we’re making love.
Lauri: The separation you experience in the beginning of the dream is very likely connected to some sort of separation between you and hubby in waking life. It could be anything from a separation of ideas like a disagreement, to a separation in the time you two spend together. You wind up stuck at home in the dream which makes me wonder if you find yourself at home all too often while he is at work or traveling, hanging with friends, etc. You also wind up getting snowed in which just may be an indication a cold front has moved into your life to some degree. At the time of this dream, had you or your husband been giving the other the cold shoulder? Is there some situation or idea that you or he has not quite warmed up to?
In the dream you are finding rooms for everyone so they can sleep. I believe this is the way your dreaming mind is telling you that whatever is causing this cold front in your marriage, whatever is causing you to have a separation of ideas or is causing you to be apart as far as time with each other… you need to “put it to rest.”
And I believe this is where your friend comes in to play. It is likely that he represents the friendship within your marriage… that is, unless you REALLY DO – deep down – wish you had married him. Otherwise, the ensuing love-making is more about bringing the friendship into your marriage. Remember, sex in dreams is most often about bringing into your life or into your personality what you lack. In your case, this dream is a reminder that as husband and wife you must be friends first. It’s far easier to put issues to rest when you view each other as equals and as friends rather than opponents.
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