Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Had Matching Nightmares

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My boyfriend and I had been arguing all night. Sometime around 4 am, going on 5, we both had a nightmare and addressed each other about it around 8 in the morning. We weren’t in the same place, he was home and I was home. I find it so ironic how we had the same dream (when we weren’t even around each other) let alone more ironic how we woke up at the same time. His dream was that he got jumped. My dream was that these kids he had altercations with were outside my house begging him to come out & pulled out guns but the cops came. Is this symbolizing it’s gonna come true? I’m scared, I’m thinking about visiting a fortune teller. Please help!

LauriOh for goodness sake, save your money! Having the same or similar dream as someone else on the same night isn’t terribly uncommon. It is called “shared dreaming” and it probably happens even more than we realize because we do not always remember nor  report our dreams to others in the morning. I’ve even addressed this in a previous column here at EMandLO.com. The reason your dreams were so similar is because you both went to sleep with the same issue on your mind — your fight — so both of your subconscious minds’ addressed the fight.

In his dream, he got jumped. That reflects how he felt after your fight. He felt attacked… by you, and his dreaming mind equated this to being ganged up on. In your dream the gang was begging him to come out. That probably reflects your role in the fight. When you two were fighting, were you begging him to “come out” and open up about something?

The guns are the emotional weapons you used or both of you used on each other. Guns in dreams are all about shooting off at the mouth, criticism, emotionally wounding words, etc.  The cops showing up represents that you two managed to put a stop to the fight before it got too bad.

So don’t worry, these dreams are not a warning of things to come but rather an honest expression of how you both feel about what went down in your fight. I highly recommend you both continue to share your dreams with each other, as it will help you stay tuned into one another. It’s something fresh to talk about every day, often something fun to laugh about, but most importantly, your dreams are the most pure and honest expressions you have. And in any healthy relationship, honesty is always the best policy.


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