Dream Interpretation: My Dreams Make Me Want to Contact My Ex

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I’ve been having lots of dreams lately of me cheating or wanting to cheat on my boyfriend. In the most recent one I was “hooking up” with someone that I had dated before my current boyfriend, but that he knows of, and we were hiding within the same house and we didn’t get caught. Then I wake up with this really bad anxiety to contact my ex. Does that probably mean I’m not happy anymore with my current partner?

LauriDreaming of hooking up with the ex is reeeeeeeeeeeally common. Typically, the ex isn’t playing himself (or herself) but instead represents something from that relationship that you wish to bring into your current one. Was there more excitement and passion? More friendship? Whatever it is, it seems that you aren’t speaking up about it but are keeping it to yourself, hence the hiding in the dream.

Contacting your ex is not the best idea. Remember, he is an ex for a reason. These dreams aren’t urging you to get back with him, but rather are enlightening you to what you feel is missing in your current relationship. So don’t keep it to yourself, if something isn’t right, if something seems to be missing, communicate that to your boyfriend. A good relationship is always under construction. Communication feeds the relationship. Keeping things to yourself will only starve it.

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