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How To
How to Split the Bill in 7 Easy Steps

Dates may be cheap but they ain’t never free. So who coughs up? Whoever did the asking should expect to pay for the date. This is the 21st century, people; it’s so last century to assume the man always gets it. That said, if you’ve been asked out, you should always assume you’ll be going dutch. […]

Your Call
My Man Won’t Show Affection in Public

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My boyfriend and I have been dating for […]

Pop Culture
A Peek at China’s Growing Sex Toy Industry

While perusing Getty Images for weird and wacky sex-related photos, we came across this beautifully shot series by photographer Greg Baker that fit the bill: the sex toy industry in China. Baker writes: China’s puritanical Communist Party decried decadence during its first decades in power, and while conservative attitudes are still widespread, economic reforms have […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Was a Playa Man

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream that I was a man and I had sex with like […]

How To
The 5 Habits of Successful Couples

by Lavinia Lumezanu for YourTango Successful relationships start here. We all want successful relationships in our lives, yet we manage to sabotage them one way or another. Sometimes we do it because we don’t know better, because we’re mad—or we get afraid when a relationship gets too good to be true, so we end up messing it up. Yet beyond the […]

Confessions
Don’t Call Yourself a Slut

Reader “Don” had this to say in response to our post “How Many Partners Officially Makes You a Slut?” While we can see the benefits of reclaiming the word and wearing it as a badge of honor, we also appreciate, like Don, the importance of not using it any self-denigrating way, however subtly: Once, a close friend described […]

Toys
10 Toys Every Straight Girl Should Have in Her Pleasure Chest

You probably have one trusty, old, well-worn vibe that does the trick. But any self-respecting pleasure enthusiast should have at least a couple of these 10 basics in their bedside toy chest. They’ll support you in both your quality alone time and your partner play. Remember, the won who dies with the most toys wins! 1. Lube If […]

How To
8 Ways Great Sex Starts WITHOUT Your Partner

If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life. Concerning yourself with just the act of sex is like only counting calories. There are numerous aspects of your daily life that affect sex in […]

Your Call
Is Just a Kiss Still Full-Blown Cheating?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’ve been married for almost 20 years. I often […]

Sex Poetry
Ginsberg’s Ode to Serious Kink

Allen Ginsberg’s openness about his homosexuality didn’t just make him controversial, it made him politically significant during the second half of the 20th century. And his infamous “Please Master” is Exhibit A of just how open he could be. This ode to BDSM certainly opened my eyes when I accidentally discovered it in middle school while doing research at my small-town […]

Dream Interpretation
My Wife Won’t Have Sex with Me, But She Still Has Sex Dreams

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: My wife refuses sex, saying she doesn’t like sex any more. (We have 2 kids; we […]

How To
6 Ways to Tell You’re in the RIGHT Relationship

by Brianna Wiest for YourTango Sometimes it’s not a matter of finding the right relationship, but realizing when you already have it. The story we’re sold about love usually doesn’t go past the exposition. The part people write about and talk about and make films about is the seeking, finding, losing and finding again. We talk about heartbreak and loss, […]

How To
Please Don’t Put These 12 Things in Your/Her Vagina, Ever

You might think this topic shouldn’t need explanation or elaboration, but you’d be surprised. 1. Douches This is the one every woman should know by now not to use. Douches are unnecessary products invented by The Man to solve made-up problems and make a buck. Vaginas, like ears, clean themselves. There’s good bacteria in your vagina […]

Confessions
Size Does Not Correlate with Pleasure

We can never resist a feel-good, body-positive, you-go-boy! comment. This one is from Olatunji in response to the article “My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me“: The size is not what matters. The smaller organ has a much greater erectile capacity than the larger one. The size of the flaccid […]

How To
The 7 Rules of Orgasm Etiquette

1. The goal should be at least one orgasm per person per sesh, bare minimum. We hope we don’t need to point out that an orgasm for just one partner is not the finishing tape of a sex run. Instead, think of sex as a three-legged race — your partner can neither compete nor cross the finish line […]