When you move in together, what you lose in mystery you make up for in intimacy. But lack of mystery can kill romance and passion. So here are 7 steps to make sure living together doesn’t ruin good lovin’. 1. Be courteous. People often assume that manners are meant to govern the interactions of strangers […]
Before we started reading The Husbands and Wives Club: A Year in the Life of a Couples Therapy Group by Laurie Abraham (based on this NYT mag cover story), we had a number of preconceived notions. (1) Okay, so other people’s therapy might be interesting when Gabriel Byrne plays the therapist on HBO, but real-life […]
photo by faster_panda_kill_kill We love to browse the “trending topics” at Twitter to see what people are tweeting about across the world. Where else can you get relationship wisdom from millions of people simultaneously? Our most recent favorite topic is the hash tag #YouAintForMe. Here are twenty recent ones for your edification — though we […]
Mesha, commenting on “Advice: My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me”: No one sees our “flaws” more than ourselves. My advice to men: stop measuring yourselves, big or small — you are a man, and just in being a man are wonderful in yourselves and highly valued by women. Just […]
Dear Em & Lo, I dated a guy 20 years ago for about 8 months and he recently found me online. We broke up originally because of me, I was 19 and really thought that I was in love with the guy I cheated on him with. I had a child with the guy I […]
A contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: Until about a year ago, my mother was always very close-minded about sex. I never had “the talk” with either of my parents, and I learned about intercourse and other modes of love making via fellow classmates, porn, and the […]
photo by faster_panda_kill_kill Oh, pshaw. Girls often turn down sex for a variety of reasons. Try being a guy and telling a woman it’s not happening tonight. Guys get a bad rap sometimes for being sexually aggressive, pushy, not respecting women’s boundaries… but have you ever seen how a woman gets when she’s denied sex!?!? […]
photo by grandcamel Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: My boyfriend and I broke up recently because of trust issues I have, but a couple days ago we decided […]
Sharing a fantasy with a partner can be a cheap and easy way to foster intimacy, build trust, and kink things up. But it takes a lot of courage to do. What if you think yours is too mundane to put into words (remember Meg Ryan’s faceless stranger fantasy in When Harry Met Sally?). Or […]
photo by kalleboo Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do you feel about being given directions while you’re going downtown? Do you appreciate instructions on what works for that particular woman, or do you feel like it’s backseat driving, or that you’re just a tool or a […]
Image via IMDB You know the relationship is serious when you’re spending any major holiday with your significant other’s family. Sure, you may have met them briefly once or twice before, but something like Thanksgiving is the battleground where approval can be won or lost forever. So follow these ten simple rules to ensure your […]
photo by kabils Dear Em and Lo, As a guy, I’ve always felt a little distrustful about my sense of commitment. I know that I can sometimes get freaked out a little too easily over long-term plans, even if just talking about it. Throughout the few romantic entanglements I’ve been in, I’ve never had a […]
This week in the comments section, Spes posed an excellent question, so we wanted to highlight it in case you missed it: Is secretly sexting (sexual texting) with someone other than your committed partner cheating?(trends) Can’t see the poll? Click here to take it.
Truth or Dare has sadly bitten the dust, but you can find lots of other fun adult games at GoodVibes.com. There’s a reason why Truth or Dare is mostly played by high school kids — because they’re the only ones who are willing to spend hours coming up with creative truths or dares to get […]
photo by altemark It’s quite arrogant to think you have the right to minimize any STD. It is true that millions of Americans have HPV, it is true that some people’s immune systems are able to kick it… BUT what about all the rest of the people who have to suffer with it for the […]
photo by Mykl_Roventine Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Why do guys seem to hate talking on the phone? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): My suspicion is that it has to do with how most straight guys talk, or rather, don’t talk. Straight men seem to not indulge in […]
