Dream Interpretation: Awake I'm Female, Asleep I'm Male

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My boyfriend and I broke up recently because of trust issues I have, but a couple days ago we decided we would try to work things out and take things a bit slower this time. So I’m guessing this has something to do with the really weird dream I just had: In it, I am a man. It’s me and another guy who I seem to know very well, and two girls. In the beginning we are receiving blowjobs from the girls, but lose our erections in the middle of it. We seem very confused and try to get it back up but cant. Then all of a sudden a giant light bulb appears in the sky but is not lit up. I tell the other guy to look and then the light bulb starts to turn like its being screwed in and lights up. Me and the other guy both go “Oh, yeah, duh,” and almost magically our erection come back instantly. Then we have intercourse with the girls. I would appreciate any explanation you have to offer.

Lauri: Gender-switching dreams can certainly be confusing but are more common than you might think!  And yes, you are correct; this dream is definitely about your relationship.  It came to you to help you figure it all out.  That’s why we dream after all.  You are a man in the dream because your wiser dreaming mind is telling you to “man up,” grow a pair, deal with it.  You are receiving a blow job because oral sex, in a dream, is actually about communication.  Anything involving the mouth in a dream can almost always be connected to a recent conversation.  You are on the receiving end because you must have received lip service from your boyfriend.  Is he the one that sold you on the idea of giving the relationship another try?    The up and down of the erection and the confusion you have over it is directly linked to being up and down and confused over the relationship.

The light bulb is an interesting element!  The screwing in aspect of it may point to the fact that you feel you have been screwed over by a past relationship.  Is that why you have trust issues?  But it lights up and the obligatory light bulb or “duh moment” goes on in your head because your dream is telling you, “Hey!  Lighten up!”  You don’t have to carry the heaviness of a past relationship into a new one.  What good does that do?  Sheesh.  Let it go, lady!

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