Communication
How To
That Pesky C-Word

“The ultimate sexist put-down: the prick which lies down on the job. The ultimate weapon in the war between the sexes: the limp prick. The banner of the enemy’s encampment: the prick at half-mast. The symbol of the apocalypse: the atomic warhead prick which self-destructs. That was the basic inequity which could never be righted: […]

Dear Em & Lo
When Do I Tell a New Partner I Want an Open Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear […]

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Dear Em & Lo: My Husband Photoshopped My Nude Photos

photo by cogdogblog Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, While on our honeymoon, we took advantage of a rainy day to stay lazily in our beautiful hotel room all day. We crossed a boundary we hadn’t crossed before: nude photography! We’d been playing with the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My “Friend” Tried to Get Frisky with Me

photo via Flickr Every week or so we answer queries from you, dear readers, about your love lives. You can submit your own question — anonymously! — via our contact form here. Dear Em & Lo I believed that I had met a wonderful man who became a friend. About a year ago, he was […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Fall In Love with Your Wife Again

Reader John wrote the following in response to the post, “Comment of the Week: I’m Jealous of My Wife’s Friends.” It’s a long one, but stick ’til the end (just as he did, sorta) — you’ll be glad that you did! About two years ago, I had mentally drifted away from my wife of over twenty […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want to Go On Dates Anymore

If only all couch potatoes looked like this Dear Em & Lo, I have been married and divorced and only just started to date again. Been with this guy for 8 months now. No problems with him lying, cheating, etc. Started off great. Going out, spending time with each other. But of recent months the […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: BDSM Is More About Trust Than Ropes & Chains

Sutra Chainlink Cuffs by LELO Reader sex_is_weird_thats_all said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” Despite the people who end up in the news, there is usually in any metropolitan area a very legit BDSM community. I have a group of friends that includes a sizable chunk […]

Books
How to Tell a Vanilla Partner About Your Kink

We frequently hear from readers who are struggling with an imbalance of kink in their relationship — one partner is vanilla while the other is decidedly chocolate-swirl-fudge. So we asked Richard Wagner, a.k.a. Dr. Dick (seriously), the author of the new book The Gospel of Kink: A Modern Guide To Asking For What You Want And […]

Personal Essays
Comment of the Week: I’m Jealous of My Wife’s Friends

Reader Jeff posted the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?” We thought it would be a great jumping off point for a debate about how to compromise in a relationship when one person wants a lot more solo time with their friends than another. How […]

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Dear Em & Lo: My Fiance Won’t Let Me Use a Vibrator During Sex

Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I am 24 years old and am recently engaged to my boyfriend of 2 years. We have been very open with our sexual problems but one I just can’t see to get him to understand is that I can’t have […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How You Know He’s “The One”

Reader MarcieT said the following in response to our post “Your Call: How Do I Know If He’s ‘The One’?” What would you add to this list? (Um, sexual compatibility, anyone?) What would you not include? (Maybe you like watching TV on your own…) You know he’s “The One” when: You miss having him beside you […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Know If He’s the One?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Personal Essays
How One Couple Gets Closer to Go Further… In Bed (Part 1 of 2)

sponsored post ***Originally Posted on May 2nd, 2013*** Introducing Our “Get Closer Go Further” Project We’re thrilled to team up with Durex for this “Get Closer to Go Further” project, which encourages committed couples to do just that: build intimacy in order to explore more sexual territories together. And when we say “go further,” we’re not just talking […]

Personal Essays
4 Reasons Why It’s Good to Take Turns During Sex

photo via flickr Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to say about the importance of taking turns… I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in having this ever-present fantasy of succumbing to someone else completely — someone who’ll give me a […]

How To
5 Easy Ways to Talk Dirtier Tonight

Dirty talk can terrify even the most seasoned sexual adventurer—people are afraid of sounding stupid or afraid of like a pornstar… or perhaps they’re afraid of not sounding like a pornstar. But when you break it down, dirty talk is actually much simpler and more approachable than you might think. Here are five easy ways […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Embrace Your Partner’s Sexual History

Reader Hannah offered up the following very wise (and patient!) advice in response to our post “Your Call: How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me?” Sigh… A man wants a virgin who will be his whore. I am going to try to avoid criticizing though, since I think this is […]