Exes
Dream Interpretation
I Dreamt I Had Sex with My Dead, Abusive, Ex Husband

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Well to start, my husband died from a drug addiction related overdose 8 years ago. […]

How To
10 Journal Prompts to Help You Get Over a Breakup

Two articles in the New York Times (here and here) discussed the benefits of writing things down to help you move on from a difficult situation. An aversion to exercise, for example, or trouble fitting in at a new job, or — the situation we hear about most often at EMandLO.com — inability to get over […]

Dream Interpretation
I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Ex (Who I Don’t Want Back)

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Lately I’ve been having my ex-boyfriend pop up in all my dreams. We were together […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dreamt I Had Sex with the Mother of My Kids…in Front of My Girlfriend

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: So the other night I had a dream that I was having sex with the […]

How To
12 Bedroom DON’Ts Men & Women Are STILL Committing

We’re not big fans of exiling men and women to their own separate planets — Mars and Venus, respectively — with nary a shuttle between them. There’s a lot more that we have in common than we don’t. That said, when you grow up in a culture committed to putting everyone into two neat gender boxes […]

Your Call
Why Does He Keep Pining for His Exes? How Can He Stop?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make YOUR CALL on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Why do I romanticize the past? I am a […]

Dear Em & Lo
Help, My Boyfriend Won’t Sever All Ties with His Ex!

Dear Em & Lo, HELLLLPPPP!!! So I’m recovering from a bad relationship and by luck, I just find someone new who is nurturing me to have good self-esteem and a good mindset and loves me and I love it. It’s more than what I could possibly ask for in life. Yet, he happens to have […]

Dear Em & Lo
What Are the Rules of the Rebound?

Dear Em & Lo, I just got out of a long-term relationship. I’m just wondering how long one should wait before dating or hooking up or whatever it’s called these days again…? Is there a “right” amount of time? How can you tell if you’re rebounding? Is that a bad thing or is a rebound relationship something […]

Your Call
What Does It Mean When an Old Flame, Now Married, Gets In Touch?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Needing advice pls. A man that I once […]

How To
How to Dump Someone: Breakup Lines That Don’t Suck

You’ve heard of pick-up lines, but what about break-up lines? At least effective and realistic ones beyond “It’s not you, it’s me.” There’s no perfect way to break up with someone — it’s gonna suck for both of you (but especially them) no matter how you do it. But there are certainly approaches you can use to help […]

Your Call
How Do You Deal with a Surprise Breakup?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader: Dear Em & Lo, Me and my ex were together for almost 2 years. He broke up with me last month, and I was […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dreamt My Decent Ex Abused Me

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Recently, I have reconnected with an ex-boyfriend. […]

How To
5 Fixes for Saying the Wrong Name in Bed

Dear Em & Lo,  I like this man so much. But I called him my ex’s name when he was going down on me and I wasn’t even thinking of my ex or anything! I was with my ex for 2 years and this guy 3 months. I’m done with my ex but the new […]

How To
How Much Should You Google a New Partner?

Sure, sure, we know — everyone does it, it’s not just you. But would it be better for your relationships if you didn’t? And at what point in a relationship is it no longer weird to admit to someone that you Googled them? Also, how deep should you Google? For example, is it too psycho […]

Your Call
Do Guys Ever Stop Halfway Through Cheating Sex Because They Feel Bad?

We know that this week’s question is kind of a gimme — like, duh, of course she should dump his cheating ass. But (a) we thought that the reader in question would be more likely to do the actual dumping if she heard that advice from a bunch of you, and (b) we’d love you guys […]

Your Call
What Do Her Ex’s Recent Emails Mean?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I need advice please, particularly male advice. I had […]