Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:
So the other night I had a dream that I was having sex with the mother of my child in my house and my girlfriend and her kids were outside and I told the mother of my child she had to get up and leave and she didn’t that’s when I woke up.
Lauri: It’s very common to dream of having sex with the mother or father of your kids, especially when the two of you aren’t on the best terms. Sex dreams aren’t always about a physical union you want (even though there was clearly an attraction there at some point), but they are more about a psychological union you need.
Your dream reflects that you either “came together” – ahem – and connected on some level recently or that you need to. Do you recall coming to an agreement or understanding with her?
It is interesting that she was in your house while your girlfriend and her kids were outside. That indicates that your kid’s mom is in your head… hopefully not in a guilt-ridden or other negative way.
She won’t leave in the dream because there is something YOU can’t let go of or move on from. You have a child together so she’s always going to be a presence in your life and I believe your dream is encouraging you to connect and unite, not sexually, but intellectually for the sake of your child. Growing up with parents who hate each other does not an emotionally healthy adult make!