Libido
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Can’t Keep Up with My Girlfriend’s Libido

photo via flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we love each other very much, but she is way more into sex than I am. I try to match her libido but she is still too […]

How To
5 Ways to Rekindle the Flame

photo via flickr True love and deep intimacy aren’t a guarantee of hot sex. In fact, being in long-term love might be the reason your sex life is dull! After all, it’s hard to get excited when you know all your partner’s moves, when you know they’re not going anywhere, when you know every bad […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Handle a Husband Who Doesn’t Want Sex

image via Wiki Media We had a question from one of our readers asking about why her husband isn’t interested in sex. We had lots of responses from seeing if she could buy testosterone from a legit source to increase his sex drive, suggesting going to counselling, and even some people saying just get someone […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Husband Isn’t Interested in Sex with Me

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Help! I’ve been married to my husband 5 […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Want Less Sex As a Relationship Progresses?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys tend to want to have sex less often as a relationship progresses? Is that normal, or is that a sign that a relationship is on the outs?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): It’s […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Won’t My Boyfriend Sleep with Me?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, I am writing for a few reasons, […]

Personal Essays
7 Ways to Turn Yourself On

EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: I’ll admit it — most of these suggestions will probably resonate more with the ladies than the gents. After all, guys don’t tend to need much […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can She Get Into Sex Again?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. I’ve been married […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Stop the Presses! Women Have Libidos!

photo by Ranjit Laxman Photography We got a lot of thoughtful, interesting responses to the Wise Guys column “What If Her Libido Is Higher Than His?” that yes, many women do have higher libidos than men and no, they’re not nymphos. We can’t post them all, so just go read the comments section. Below is […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: Help, Menopause Sucks!

photo by me_and_the_sysop Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I need menopause help, this time of my life sucks! I have no urges, no […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Vanessa: Can Zoloft Affect My Sex Drive?

photo by Nathan Csonka Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood ® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, Can Zoloft affect my sex drive? I never feel intimate anymore, and […]

Research
Research Shows a Woman’s Tears Kill a Man’s Libido

photo by David Blackwell Scientists have long pondered the mystery of why humans, unlike other species, cry emotional tears. A new study provides a few answers — as well as raising a whole bunch of new questions. Basically, researchers found that men who sniffed drops of women’s emotional tears became less sexually aroused than when […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: BF Loves Me But Misses Thrill of the Chase

photo by voxefx We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Can a Woman Say "You Go Ahead" In Bed?

photo by footfan33602 Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “When a woman says, ‘We can focus on you now, it’s not going to happen for me tonight,’ how do guys tend to feel about this? Relieved? Insulted? Is it a mood-killer?” To ask the guys your own question, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Deny Masturbating?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do some men — single, married, in relationships, straight, gay, bisexual, etc. — deny masturbating?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Are you serious? I’ve never met a man who […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – What's Up with the Sex-Sports Connection?

photo by Gil Searcy Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What is the connection between sports and sex with guys? For instance, why were certain World Cup teams prevented from having sex while others are given the green light? Is there a connection between testosterone and the thrill […]