What It Means When You and a Friend Have the Same Dream

Lena Dunham in “Girls”

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader tells Lauri:

I had a dream that I was spending time with a young male child in a room. From the other side of a door, I could hear my best female friend talking to another child. The weird thing is: she had the same dream from her point of view. We tried a relationship a while back, but there were some issues. I live in Ohio, and she lives 500 miles away in Illinois. We’re not sure what it means. We assume the children in the dream are our own.

Lauri:  We’ve been getting an onslaught of people writing to Em & Lo claiming they had the same dream as someone else. It’s called Shared Dreaming and it happens more often than you might think. The reason why it happens is because the two people who experienced the same dream are often both involved in the same issue and therefore dream about the issue in a similar manner.

The issue you share with your friend is a romantic relationship that didn’t work out. The door in your dreams probably symbolizes that you two have closed the door on that aspect of the relationship and are now just friends. But it could also symbolize what came between the two of you, besides the distance. Were either of you not open enough?

The children in the dream, rather than being your own children, are more likely the childish part of yourselves. Did the relationship end due to childish behavior?

Our dreams help us to figure out our issues and it seems that, through your shared dream, the two of you have figured out why the romantic part of your relationship didn’t work out… and sometimes people are simply better together as friends.


Visit Lauri’s site, WhatYourDreamMeans.com, for even more dream interpretations! If you want to be able to figure out your own dreams every morning, then check out her latest book, Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, which will give you the tools you need to become a dream expert, too. Check out all of Lauri’s books here.