Dream Interpretion: I Keep Dreaming of a Same-Sex Crush, But I’m Not Gay

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I am a 48-year-old woman and I keep having these dreams about the same woman. I met her when I was living in a group home 4 years ago. She was my counselor. I had never felt for a woman until I met her. Two years ago I moved into my own apt. She once told me she was versatile. I do not know what she meant by that. Help me to understand. Are we going to be together in the future?

Lauri: Dreams are always commenting on what is going on in your life and in your mind right now. It’s not a good idea to look at them as a predictor of the future but rather as an insightful reflection of the now. That being said, the feelings you had for your counselor a few years ago may be transference. Transference is when an individual develops an erotic attraction to his or her doctor or therapist or other helpful, caring, authoritative figure. The feelings are often born out of the patient being in a vulnerable state and they attach themselves to the person who seems to really understand them. I want you to ask yourself how you may be feeling vulnerable right now in your life. What is going on that is causing you to need a caring, helpful figure in your life right now? What lessons did she teach you? What coping skills did she help you to develop? She may very well represent your own ability to pull yourself through a tough situation and would therefore be making appearances in your dream to remind you that this ability is indeed alive and well within you.

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! And don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site.

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