Cunnilingus
Advice
The Unbearable Lightness of Blowjobs

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  “Popping her cherry” “Swiping my V-card” “Going all the way” All of these phrases — and countless more — connote one single, sexual act: intercourse. Given its reproductive implications, our […]

Your Call
Your Call: My Husband Doesn’t Go Down on Me Anymore

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband doesn’t go down on her anymore — by leaving […]

How To
Oral Sex Skills: How to Go Down on HER

Cunnilingus is one of the most daunting sexual tasks a person can undertake. It’s one of those unfair facts of life: there’s much more variation in what “works” among the gals than the guys, so there’s no sequence of moves guaranteed to result in her orgasm. But don’t think of her orgasm as being high-maintenance; […]

Research
Will Anal Be the New Oral?

A word of warning: Some links are definitely NSFW. There is very little new under the sexual sun. Classical Roman and Greek art honor both anal and oral sex, with the interesting codicil that the higher-ranked personage was always the top, the lower ranked the bottom, for both forms of naughty. (We can guess Julius Caesar was not unlike […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, How Risky Is Oral Sex for STD Transmission?

I’m a teenager who was kinda pressured to give a guy oral (he’s my age) and though it was only for 3 minutes tops, I don’t know anything about his medical history except that he has had sex before. I myself had never done that before, nor have I had sex (I am a virgin) and didn’t even […]

Confessions
Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]

How To
The Art of “Everything But” for Straight People

Many, many, many, many women don’t climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? Here, the how-to tips for everything from soul-stirring kissing to mind-blowing oral sex, guaranteed to improve both partners’ non-intercourse sex life. 1. Talking Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the […]

Wise Guys
Why Aren’t Some Men Up for Going Down?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys seem to dislike giving oral sex more than woman seem to dislike giving it?“ Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I’ve met a bunch of straight men and woman who dislike the pastime, which is a bit of a mystery […]

How To
Oral Sex Etiquette: 12 Golden Rules for Going Down

The following list of tips is intended for both women and men: The golden rule of manners as it pertains to dining downtown is this: consider it the equivalent of a free meal at a Gordon Ramsay restaurant. It’s a sheer delight simply to be there! So act like it. When the best chefs in […]

Wise Guys
Do Men Appreciate Directions When They’re Going Down on a Woman?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do you feel about being given directions while you’re going downtown? Do you appreciate instructions on what works for that particular woman, or do you feel like it’s backseat driving, or that you’re just a tool or a servant? Is there […]

Dear Em & Lo
How to Help Your Vagina Taste and Smell Better

Dear Em & Lo, My husband and I have been been sexually active with one another for five years.  I’ve been smoking cigarettes for four years. I slowed down dramatically when I got pregnant in 2007 (from needing my own pack to two cigarettes a day or none at all). My husband didn’t know about […]

Polls
Deal Breaker or No Deal Breaker: Oral Sex

“Deal Breaker or No Deal Breaker” is a new series of polls we’ll be running at EMandLO.com. We want to know what our readers consider a deal breaker in a serious relationship, and what they could get past. A deal breaker could be anything from someone who doesn’t like doggy style… to someone who doesn’t […]

Dear Em & Lo
Help: My Inability to Orgasm Is Ruining My Relationship

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been dating my […]

Confessions
Why No Blowjobs Can Be a Dealbreaker for Men

photo via flickr Last week we published reader Sara’s impassioned comment about blowjobs, and how they are not an inalienable right. This week, we are publishing two responses to her by two of our equally thoughtful, passionate, intelligent male readers, Derek and Steve. Can we just say how much we love that a debate like […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Husband Won’t Give Me Oral

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Toys
Last Chance to Haiku Your Way to a Lelo ORA!

sponsored post *** THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED *** The deadline for our LELO Ora haiku contest is end of day Friday, January 31st — a deadline specially chosen so that we can get the winner’s toy out before V-Day! So here’s your last chance to wax lyrical about oral sex and win yourself or […]