Orgasms
How To
The Art of “Everything But” for Straight People

Many, many, many, many women don’t climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? Here, the how-to tips for everything from soul-stirring kissing to mind-blowing oral sex, guaranteed to improve both partners’ non-intercourse sex life. 1. Talking Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the […]

Comment of the Week
5 Ways to Avoid a Lifetime of Sad, Unsatisfying, Marital Sex

This comment by MEK in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm” is truly depressing. It’s a layered onion of bummer that makes us want to cry. This 21-year marriage has it all: Physical pain? Check. Miscommunication (or total lack of communication)? Check. Selfishness? Check. Resentment? Check. Bitterness? Check! […]

How To
Just Do It: How Exercise Is ESSENTIAL for Great Sex

You know you should exercise — there are myriad health benefits that should encourage you to workout regularly. But perhaps the one that will finally convince you to get off the couch and get your butt in gear is the benefit to S-E-X. Improving your cardiovascular health and lowering your cholesterol with regular exercise improves […]

How To
12 Bedroom DON’Ts Men & Women Are STILL Committing

We’re not big fans of exiling men and women to their own separate planets — Mars and Venus, respectively — with nary a shuttle between them. There’s a lot more that we have in common than we don’t. That said, when you grow up in a culture committed to putting everyone into two neat gender boxes […]

How To
Guys Dish on What Makes a Woman Good in Bed (Their Answers Might Surprise You!)

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango We asked a group of men to tell us what makes a woman good in bed. Is someone’s sex skill level a thing you can clock? Aside from a big ol’ orgasm, what to surprises and delights you in bed with the right partner? These guys were maybe far too happy […]

What's Up Doc?
Doc, How Can I Squirt If My G-Spot Hurts?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, My husband and I have been discussing squirting. We have read many […]

Advice
Use It Or Lose It: 7 Ways a Sex Drought Can Negatively Affect Your Vagina

Aly Walansky for YourTango [Editors’ note: “Sex” here means many things, including, but not limited to, intercourse, oral sex, manual sex, masturbation…]   SEX IS GOOD FOR OUR BODY in ways we can’t even imagine. From better sleep, to a stronger immune system, to burning calories and boosting our mood, getting some is good in many ways. Of […]

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Ladies, Here’s the #1 Thing You Must Insist on for Dramatically Better Sex

by Morgan Susan Taylor for YourTango The truth is that most people simply don’t understand the unique difference between the female and male anatomy, their sexual response cycle and why it’s a FACT that women need more time — and more foreplay — before they are going to be fully ready for sex. More time spent on foreplay not only gets your […]

Your Call
How Can I Give Myself a Decent Orgasm? My Body Seems Broken!

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m 18, and for as long as I […]

Your Call
My Boyfriend Doesn’t Care About My Orgasm

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  This guy I am seeing is really affectionate, […]

How To
The 7 Rules of Orgasm Etiquette

1. The goal should be at least one orgasm per person per sesh, bare minimum. We hope we don’t need to point out that an orgasm for just one partner is not the finishing tape of a sex run. Instead, think of sex as a three-legged race — your partner can neither compete nor cross the finish line […]

Dear Em & Lo
What It Means If You Laugh When You Get Close to an Orgasm

Dear Em & Lo, I have this little problem that I have no idea what to do about. It seems that every time I get close to climaxing when having oral sex or fingering I can’t help but to laugh. Every time I feel like I am getting close I push away and start busting […]

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15 Things You Can Change About Your Sex Life

A few weeks back, we told you about six things you can’t change about your sex life, and we encouraged an attitude of serenity and acceptance. But luckily there are plenty of things that you can change about your sex life, too! Here are fifteen to get you started… 1. Your sexual IQ. Bodies don’t come […]

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Why You Should Never Fake an Orgasm (Except in This One Case)

Faking, Defined Every woman has faked an O at least once in her lifetime. Pretending to climax is a theatrical art — one that even thespian Keanu Reeves would find challenging to pull off convincingly. There’s a healthy dose of heavy breathing with much melodramatic “oohing” and “ahhing” sprinkled throughout (all informed by porn and “When […]

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5 Super Nice Ways to Say “You’re Not Good in Bed”

Sex is so easy, even chickens with pea-sized brains can do it. (Speaking of: If you’re looking for a hilarious and enlightening post about how, exactly, chickens do it, go here. You’re welcome. Em has a coop in her backyard with eleven hens and one very lucky rooster, and even she learned something.) But if sex is […]

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How to Masturbate (If You’re a Woman)

Women don’t always climax during intercourse, but they almost always do during masturbation. At least, if they’re prepared to put in a bit of practice, they do. The first orgasm is usually the hardest to achieve. It may also be mild and fleeting, but it gets way better. And once a woman has orgasmed on […]