Relationships
Personal Essays
My Top 5 Romantic Goals for the New Year

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge. As someone who is recently single, I’ve decided this new year is going to be full of love-life firsts. What better time to assess past relationship mistakes, question […]

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The 5 Keys to Heartbreak-Free Couple Fighting

By the Gottman Institute’s Kyle Benson for YourTango Your future together can be bright even if your disagreements tend to be very negative. Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Psychologist Dan Wile says it best in his book After the Honeymoon: “When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of […]

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The 3 (Non-Sexual) Keys to a Great (Sexual) Relationship

We recently featured some great sex tips from some of the winners of our Wildfire Contest, which asked readers to give us their best tip for lighting up their love life. The following winning entry was so good, it deserved its own dedicated post: My best advice for lighting the fire: communication, understanding, and acceptance. The man […]

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10 Novel Ways to Ignite Your Relationship (from Readers!)

We asked readers to give us their single best tip for lighting up their love life, and we got a lot of inspiring answers. So many in fact, that we’re not just going to publish the 5 big winners of the 5  Wildfire Pleasure Oil Prize Packages, we’re going to publish the top 7 runners up […]

Research
Which One of the 4 Categories of Relationships Are YOU In?

by Merethe Najjar for YourTango Find out where you fall. Personality quizzes abound all over the internet, and it seems that everyone is looking for a simple way to answer carefully selected questions and find out secrets about themselves. Even more persistent are articles and quizzes designed to mystically let you in on the potential for a […]

Dream Interpretation
I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Ex (Who I Don’t Want Back)

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Lately I’ve been having my ex-boyfriend pop up in all my dreams. We were together […]

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8 Ways to Be a More Touchy-Feely (and Therefore Healthy & Happy) Couple

Did you know that “touch deprivation” is a legitimate psychological condition? Matthew Hertenstein, who is the director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University, states that not only is it a real thing but compared to other cultures, Americans are perhaps the most touch deprived culture on the planet. “Most of us, whatever our […]

News
Why Donald Trump, America’s Abusive Boyfriend, Won the Election

How did the least qualified person ever to run for the presidency of the United States manage to win? In large part, by negging us. Negging is one of the pick-up artist community’s cynical and manipulative strategies for seducing women. A man deliberately delivers backhanded compliments and other sly insults to his “target” in order to […]

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8 Ways to Spice Up Date Night!

Getting some quality time with your partner, let alone making time for sex, is not always easy. So, when you do get some precious hours to yourselves, you want to make the most of it, right? It’s easy to fall into a dinner-&-a-movie rut. So use these tips to take a ho-hum date night to a love […]

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Should I Stay with My Mentally Abusive, Cheating Husband?

Dear Em & Lo, I recently found out my husband of 12 years has been cheating with a lot of different women. I’ve always known this in my heart, but never could believe it because he knows how to manipulate me. He knows how to cover himself very well.  When he is with other women he […]

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Study Shows the #1 Way to Keep Sex Hot in Long-Term Relationships

By Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango When you first meet someone, start dating, and fall in love, sex is a normal part of the dating equation. The first few months I was with my boyfriend I think I had a hard time finishing sentences because I had to stop everything I was doing and so we could […]

Dream Interpretation
My Boyfriend Just Died But He Came Back to Life in My Dream

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: My boyfriend of 12 years and the father of my kids died 3 weeks ago […]

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8 Clear Signs It’s NOT Just SEX for Him, It’s LOVE

By Laura Lifshitz for YourTango You’re super-excited about someone and your feelings are intense for them. The sex is off-the-charts hot. The connection is amazing. Waiting to see this person is torture. You cannot imagine another second without being in this man’s arms. You’re so cooked and fried over this guy, we could call you a friggin’ hamburger. But […]

Your Call
Your Call: Does Her Long-Time Fling Have a Future?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  So I have been talking to a guy […]

Dream Interpretation
I Keep Dreaming My Husband Is Cheating with Someone I Don’t Like

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I’ve had this dream twice now that my husband is cheating on me with a […]