Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about dreaming of her ex and reading his journal :
After a year-and-a-half, tumultuous relationship, my bf and I finally called it quits. (He couldn’t stay faithful and I was paranoid about him cheating 24/7.) I’m still very much hurt and trying to find my way again. Meanwhile, I haven’t heard a peep from him in two months. Anyways fast forward to my dream last night: I broke into his house (climbed through an open window), looked through his stuff, and found his journal that he writes songs in (he never let me look at it in real life). Also in the dream I didn’t get caught, left just in time. Why would I do this in my dream?
Lauri: Your home in a dream will symbolize your personality construct, the dwelling place of your psyche… your mindset. So in this dream, your ex boyfriend’s home symbolizes his mindset.
You break into his home in the dream because, in real life, you have probably been trying to figure him out, to “break into” his psyche in an effort to understand why he did what he did. The open window represents how he has “opened up” to you in the past, giving you some insight into his psyche.
In contrast, his song journal represents that which you do not know about him, that which he kept closed off from you. In addition, song writers pour their hearts into their songs so subconsciously you must have felt a lot of answers could be found on those pages. I’d be curious to know if you remember seeing anything of interest in the journal.
Regardless, you narrowly escaped at the end of the dream. In my research, the ending of the dream holds the most important part of the message. And this message seems to be: you got out. You escaped! So rather than lamenting the loss of the relationship and wondering what went wrong, celebrate the fact you got out when you did. The relationship clearly had the potential to get worse and worse. Like you said in your dream report, you “left just in time.”
Response from Dreamer: This analysis was so on point! I have been trying to figure him and his mindset out for a long time …. and I love the advice “instead of lamenting the loss of the relationship and what went wrong…. ” Very eye opening and a very big part of my healing process. Thank you so much!