Sex Toys
Toys
Do It Tonight! Get Speakers for Your Sex Life

No, we’re not talking about broadcasting the dying-cow sound of your orgasm for all your neighbors to hear. We’re talking about getting some decent speakers for your sex life, i.e. to put in your bedroom so you can do it to decent-sounding music. Tunes can really help set a mood. (There’s a good reason why […]

How To
In Honor of National Orgasm Day, 7 Simple Things You Can Do To Improve Yours!

July 31st is National Orgasm Day! While orgasms are like apples — one a day will keep the doctor away — it’s still nice to have one day of the year dedicated to their celebration. Especially if you’re not getting them as often as you’d like or as often as you should be. (Maybe it […]

How To
Why Do Men Masturbate? How Do Men Masturbate Well?

Despite centuries of demonization through shame and accusations of mental infirmity (as well as some fairly inventive purported outcomes, from hairy palms to blindness), we now accept that men masturbate and that not only is it normal, it’s actually healthy for you. And while sex educators are helping break down the stigma around self-pleasure, there are many […]

Toys
The 7 Stages of Buying a Sex Toy

If you’re new to the world of erotica shops, it can be fairly intimidating buying a sex toy. But don’t worry: you’re not alone. Even seasoned shoppers experience these various emotions to some extent or another when making their next investment in their own personal pleasure. Don’t be daunted!   1. DENIAL When you’re not […]

Advice
Why ALL Women Should Masturbate (Even When They’re in a Relationship)

We once met a woman who claimed (quite proudly, we might add), “I’ve always had dick, so I don’t need to masturbate.” Our eyes bulged, our jaws dropped, our ears began to bleed a little. How could she utter such scandalous words in the 21st century? Women should masturbate! We tried desperately to explain that […]

Toys
What Are Couples Toys?

Lelo.com, one of our favorite toy creators, introduces you to the world of luxury erotic tech for couples… The way we see it, pleasure shared is pleasure doubled — particularly when it comes to sex toys. Masters of masturbation that they are, vibrators can take couple play to the next level. What could be hotter than […]

How To
Intro to Anal: How to Give It, Get It & Go Gaga for It

There are a lot of presuppositions and myths about anal sex: Men want it more. It’s not pleasurable for her. Being receptive is only for gay guys. Everyone’s doing it apart from you. There’s no such thing as an anal orgasm. So on and so forth. These sex myths are demonstrably untrue; all they do is […]

Your Call
Your Call: What’s a Good Sex Toy to Get My Girlfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My girlfriend doesn’t own any sex toys. I’m […]

How To
How to Increase Your Chances for Multiple Orgasms

According to Carlyle Jansen of the Toronto-based sexuality shop Good for Her, multiple orgasms are well within your reach! Check out her expert advice for LELO.com on achieving multiple orgasms below. Are you a one-hit wonder when it comes to clitoral orgasms?  Do you, like many of us, experience the intense and sudden post-orgasm “Don’t touch me!” […]

Toys
2 Lovely Love Rings from LELO — But Which One to Choose?

Use Code EMANDLO17 for 15% Off LELO pleasure objects in 2017! It might seem like men get the short end of the stick when it comes to sex toys — the options are limited, and often not very elegant. But one of the simplest male toys is also one of the most effective: the glorious […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator (VIDEO)

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

How To
VIDEO: 7 Steps to Gender Equality…IN THE BEDROOM!

  View & share video via YouTube HERE Every year, March 8th is International Women’s Day, a political holiday that honors the struggles, achievements and hopes for women worldwide. Since its first observance in 1908, we’ve come along way, baby! But we’ve got a hell of a long way to go: In 2014 the World […]

Pop Culture
Movie Review: Fifty Shades Blah-er

Fifty Shades Darker, the second movie in the trilogy based on the best-selling erotica series by E.L. James, certainly looks darker — the shadows are blacker, the skies are grayer, the rain is heavier. Every day in this movie feels like Sunday. But if you’re looking for an exploration of the more unnerving and dismaying aspects of […]

Research
What’s More Important to People: LOVE or LUST? (Survey Results)

Our friends over at LELO surveyed 1000 people from all around the world asking what was more important to them: love or lust? Here are the results! Overall, love is more important than lust for both women and men, except when they’re in open relationships: No matter people’s age, love still trumps lust, but surprisingly, […]

Confessions
How to “Open Up” to Your Wife

Enjoyment of and fascination with one’s own butthole can get a bad rap. Freud deemed it one of his psychosexual “stages,” thereby guaranteeing negative societal judgment of it for about a full century now. And if you’re a straight dude? Forget it: all the narrow-minded sexist homophobes will call you gay and girly (as if those were […]

Confessions
Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]