Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men think about a woman gagging while giving oral sex? How does the fact that it’s a porn trope affect your real life experiences? Is it a turn on or do most men just feel bad for the woman because she’s obviously uncomfortable?”
Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos): As someone who’s been both gagee and gagger, I’m conflicted. While it is thrilling to imagine that your tool is insurmountably large, having your partner on the perpetual verge of tears/ralphing can’t, I imagine, be that sexy. So here’s some practical advice for the Gagging Gal: behold The Python: he sits up and you lie on your side behind him so you can coil around his waist and come at his unit from one side (and slightly above). I find the penile trajectory to be, well, more palatable in this position—though peppering in a few well-timed gags couldn’t hurt either.
Straight Committed Guy (Johnny): For me, it’s a turn-on to watch. What can I say? Like many men I’ve had my brain warped by pornography. That said, I’ve only ever met one woman who said she liked being gagged (I never did find out for myself). Most women I’ve talked to about blowjobs or have been with personally — even the kinkiest ones — are really turned off by gagging. Degredation aside, the sensation of almost puking is awful. The closest I’ve ever come to receiving this experience is gagging on a tongue depressor at the doctors office, and that was anything but hot. So I’ve relegated the gag thing to the bin of over-the-line fantasy — those fantasies which one can not reasonably expect a partner to indulge, like doodoo fantasies or bestiality ones. I wouldn’t want a woman to do something in bed that she hates.
P.S. Did you know that the scientific name for… I can’t think of a polite way to describe the behavior… anyway, it’s called “irrumatio.” Now you know, if you didn’t already.
Straight Single Guy (Chris): I personally don’t like the idea of a girl choking and crying and throwing up on my penis, but certainly love how a proper deep-throat blowjob feels. I am not into the domination thing but I imagine there are guys that love the feeling of power they have over their partner, and get a combination of domination and ego boost from thinking that their penis is so big the girl can’t handle it. And it probably feels pretty good. I’m just not into it at all. Either way, I think porn plays a big factor. It seems that the gagging blowjob has become super commonplace in porn and guys who are prone to this kind of domination behavior must love the idea. (Please bear in mind that I’ve met one or two women who swear they love it too…)