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Your Call: How Can I Enjoy Receiving Oral More?

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Dear Em & Lo.

I’m a 48-year-old female and I can’t seem to achieve an orgasm during oral sex. It all seems too intense. However, I don’t have any problems when masturbating. I feel it is like… someone else scratching your feet… it tickles. If I do it myself, it doesn’t tickle. Is there anything I can do so that my man can achieve this wonderful thing for me?

— Don’t Tickle Me Elmo

What should D.T.M.E. do? Share your advice and experience below…

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10 Comments on "Your Call: How Can I Enjoy Receiving Oral More?"

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clara box
clara box
5 years 9 months ago

iam 65 still enjoy sex but ihas astoke five year ago i have trouble coming .can you give some ansner

Aztrish
Aztrish
5 years 10 months ago
Its simple, guy or girl if you don’t like oral, someone is not doing something right. No really,many many misguided souls are out there thinking they dont like it and its just never been done right. From not spending any time talking about it, to doing that all to familiar guy thing of going right for your clit like a pitbull, determined to make you cum.lol Find what you think is missing. Are you a talker? You’re here so I vote yes, lol Try having a conversation about it, looking at each other when you do it, or like even… Read more »
Dashygurl
Dashygurl
5 years 10 months ago

While like one of the responders mentioned it just be oral from the jump, unless you are already feeling it and somewhat moist… Anyway hold his head to let him know where to go, and he can’t just lick around the area, all the places the penis go is where the tongue have to go… Once you get it you will know why its the best thing since sliced bread.
enjoy

figleaf
5 years 10 months ago
For what it’s worth I’ve had the same problem with enjoying fellatio. It’s supposed to be this holy grail of gratification… and for some people it obviously is… but for others it just isn’t the right sensations in the right places. That doesn’t mean it’ll never happen — it eventually did for me — but it does mean it’s not the shoe-in it’s made out to be. One bit of advice for receiving that I think might be cross-purpose is to ask for pace and pressure that’s similar to what works for you when you touch yourself. Which may not… Read more »
Aurra
Aurra
5 years 10 months ago

Try it with a girl. They’re usually better at it.
Or tell your partner to just stick out their tongue and hold still and then pretty much hump it while you lie on your back. It will take a while though.

JLWPGH
JLWPGH
5 years 10 months ago

Talk with your partner. If they know, and enjoy doing it for you. Be adventurous. Think about what the other responder said. What works when your alone. Try to convey that to your partner. Try it somewhere else. The sofa, a golf course at night, a drive in. Go for it and enjoy. Just trying will bring you closer (in most cases). Practice, Practice, Practice there is not a test. But you will know it when you succeed. Have FUN.

RetroRiotGRRRL
RetroRiotGRRRL
5 years 10 months ago

I don’t really know what to say about all this but I’m commenting so I can remember to keep track of this one, I’m pretty interested now. Sorry that I can’t be of more help. Hope you can get everything worked out.

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