Your Call: Why Are Younger Guys Suddenly Hitting On Me?

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Dear Em & Lo,

Ever since I’ve turned 35, I’ve been getting a LOT of attention from guys 25 and under. Should I be flattered because, as I’ve been told, I “give off confident sexy older woman vibes”? Or horrified that an older woman is just something on their “to do” list? What is the real appeal of an older woman?

— Accidental Cougar

What do you have to say to Accidental Cougar? Is this attention personal, or just a matter of guys wanting to check off a box? And what is the age-old appeal of an older woman?


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2 Comments on "Your Call: Why Are Younger Guys Suddenly Hitting On Me?"

1 year 7 months ago

I can imagine various possible reasons about why you’re getting a lot of “young guy” attention(experience, attainability, et cetera as mentioned above).

Having said that, I would just ask them why. The answers may surprise you.

1 year 7 months ago

Sure, sexy older woman is one that guys like to check off the list. I don’t see the harm in that as long as sexy younger man is on your list too.

An unattached, sexy older woman gives has an attractive air of attainability. She is presumed experienced enough to have long-since shed any girlish reservations about sex. She has her own place. We assume that if she’s as attracted to us as we are to her, there should be very few obstacles to sex.

That’s generally speaking. It could also be that these guys, you know… like something about you.