Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 23-year old woman in a relationship with a wonderful guy — we’re celebrating two years together this month. We’re pretty serious about each other, but we have a serious hangup: I have very little sex drive. I’m not sure if he’s got an average drive or if he’s got […]
photo by iandeth Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What’s the big deal about blowjobs — seriously, what makes them so special? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): On the physical level, it’s simple: they feel fucking amazing. They provide physical sensations so desirable that a straight man would let […]
photo by Clean_Wal-Mart We feel just awful that we can’t answer every single advice question we get, but we figure that any answer is better than no answer at all. Which is why, once a week, we’ll let you guys decide how to advise a reader. Make your call by filling out the poll after […]
photo by Editor B Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means (after the jump). This week, a woman asks Lauri: In my dream I woke up to find a demolition ball outside of our apparent apartment […]
Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. Dr. Kate, I have this great new boyfriend and we have fantastic sex — often including orgasm, sometimes rough and with […]
photo by Lara604 It’s Mother’s Day this Sunday — don’t forget to call and thank her for all the wonderful advice. Always wear clean underwear. Trim your fingernails and wash your hands thoroughly and often. (It’ll help you avoid infection and make you less likely to tear delicate internal linings during manual sex.) Ladies first. […]
Dear Em & Lo, For the past two weeks I have been sleeping with a guy I met here at college. The boundaries of our relationship have been well-established: late night phone calls for no-strings-attached sex. Nevertheless, I want to keep this thing going. However the last time we were together I had one […]
photo by specialkrb Okay, so maybe we haven’t actually met someone who’s tried out the Kashi line in the grocery store. And we can’t guarantee that everyone will find kegel jokes as funny as we do. But the jukebox is a slam-dunk. These icebreakers might just make for more natural segues into a fully-fledged pick-up. […]
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do most straight guys secretly want to have their bums explored by their girlfriends/wives? Like, even if they don’t admit it, and they’d never ask…deep down, are they curious? Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid […]
About a week and a half ago, a reader responded to a post about the charming new term “hyena” being used to describe sexually aggressive teen girls: Have they come up for a term for younger girls who date much older men, or even something besides cradle-robber, for older men who date younger women? I’d […]
photo by adactio Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means (after the jump). This week, a woman asks Lauri: Last night I dreamed that I was fighting with my ex husband. There was the usual yelling […]
Self-love won’t cure swine flu, but that’s pretty much the only shortcoming we can think of: Getting a grip on yourself helps teach you the pattern of your own sexual response: What you like, what you don’t like, and what you hate more than anything else in the whole wide world. Friggin’ your riggin’ helps […]
photo by SYD_Rahim Dear Em & Lo, I am interested in this man and I think he is interested in me. I will call him if I am in his area and ask him to grab a drink with me and my friends. This is usually last minute. The past two times he was busy […]
photo via dutchtl Confidence — as opposed to swollen-headed cockiness — is always sexy, and especially so on a date. You know how guys are always complaining that women ignore the nice guys in favor of bad boys who never call them back? Well, perhaps women aren’t just masochists who want to be walked all […]
photo by batega Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If the guy I’ve started dating recently isn’t into cuddling or hand-holding, is that automatically a sign that he’s just not that into me, or are some guys just not into private or public displays of affection, no matter […]
photo by macsurak We feel just awful that we can’t answer every single advice question we get, but we figure that any answer is better than no answer at all. Which is why, once a week, we’ll let you guys decide how to advise a reader. Make your call by filling out the poll after […]
