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Comment of the Week: Relativism Schmelativism

photo via Flickr In the comments section of last week’s discussion of female genital cutting in Africa: Anthropology 101: Cant judge this tradition from our western eyes, cultural relativism people! Johnny: Relativism, schmelativism. Cutting off girls’ clits is wrong and the men who do it should likewise have the tips of their dicks cut off […]

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Comment of the Week: How to Stop Harassment from an Ex

In last week’s “Your Call,” Grace gave some great advice to a reader who couldn’t shake her harassing ex and his girlfriend: Here are the steps you have to follow, as told to me by my local District Attorney: Immediately go to your local precinct and file a report of harassment. This gets the paper […]

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Comments of the Week: Viva La Feminism!

feminist majority T In response to last week’s Wise Guy discussion, wherein the fellas basically said men aren’t feminists and feminism is dead, a few uppity women* had some serious straight-settling to do: Tiffany: Wow. I’m shocked at the general consensus that the work of feminism is somehow “done.” We’ve come a long way for […]

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Comment of the Week: “Ravishment Fantasy” NOT “Rape Fantasy”

  From Claire, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?” I just want to say that I am very very offended by the term “rape fantasy.” The word rape implies something being done to you (completely against your will) that you do not want. It should not be used […]

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Comment of the Week: Communication Is Fundamental

photo by bixentro Dannie‘s voice of reason emerged this past week in a debate about body fluid etiquette: It’s all about attraction/what you like/don’t like. Nobody is expecting everyone to like things one way or another, and no one is telling anyone they’re wrong for liking what they do. We all just have different types […]

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Comment of the Week: Advice to Fakers from Someone Who Feels Your Pain

I totally feel your pain. I have never been able to orgasm with my boyfriend of over a year (the only guy I’ve slept with) or on my own. It can be very disheartening. One thing that is especially irritating is the way so much advice is worded. “You know you’ve gotten to the big […]

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Comment of the Week: You Can Leave Your Socks On

photo by David_and_Katarina Re: Your advice to remove your socks before sex: Not if you’re doing me! I looove it when he leaves his socks on: It’s intimate, sweet cute and kinda says: “I want you so bad I can’t really care about my stupid socks!” Yeah, definitely keep your socks on. — matbo, responding […]

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Comment of the Week: How We Compromised on Porn

photo by TheNaughtyAmerican.com There were so many great responses to the post “Your Call: My Husband and I Can’t Compromise on Porn” that it was hard to pick just one this week. We chose JenH’s comment because we love her creative suggestions for working around the porn issue. Keep the advice and stories coming! I […]

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Comment of the Week: How to Treat Her on Valentine’s Day

Sioux, responding to the post “Your Call: What Should He Do for Valentine’s Day?”: Step 1: Bake something involved. I’m being serious. Find a recipe for something fancy, delicious, and sweet that you think would suit her taste. Does she like dark chocolate? Make truffles. Cupcakes? Find an interesting recipe and make a go for […]

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Comment of the Week: Saying the Wrong Name in Bed Is No Biggie

photo by demi-brooke Relax. You did nothing wrong — wires get crossed in our heads, and things come out that mean nothing… it sounds like that’s what happened. If you’re totally present in your current relationship that’s all that really matters — so tell your boyfriend that, acknowledge your error, apologize, but don’t act like […]

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Comment of the Week: Sexuality Does Not Determine Integrity

SEXUALITY DOES NOT DETERMINE INTEGRITY. PERIOD. And since faithfulness has it roots in integrity, sexuality doesn’t determine it any more than race, hair color, height, gender, etc. Each individual makes a CONSCIOUS decision as to whether or not they are going to be faithful. I’m straight and married to a bi-sexual, and I “hang” just […]

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Comment of the Week: Are Bisexuals More Likely to Cheat?

For the record, when we select a Comment of the Week, it’s not necessarily an endorsement of that commenter’s opinion — rather, it’s a comment that we feel is interesting for some reason: for the debate it sparks, perhaps, or the buttons it pushes. And it’s in that spirit that we present the following fairly […]

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Comment of the Week: It’s the Little Things

I, responding to the post (yes, the comments are still rolling in on this one!) “My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me”: My boyfriend and I have sex often and he is about three inches. I orgasm mutiple times every time we have sex. I have been with a man […]

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Comment of the Week: Don't Go Chasing Orgasms

photo by The World According to Marty Best snarky indictment ever [in the post “A Guide to Orgasm Etiquette”]: “He approaches handwork like weeding (‘Must. Dig Up. Orgasm!’)” I used to be so obsessed with “giving” my partners orgasms. And while I’m pretty good at it (the upside of obsession) I also turned a lot […]

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Comments of the Week: How to Convince Your GF You Love Her Body

photo by strokeskills It is going to take a very long time. It is going to take you repeatedly saying (more times than you think is necessary or reasonable, and this will only work if you are 100% genuine every single time), ‘I think you are sexy. I love you. You are so beautiful. I […]

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Comment of the Week: Let's Hear It for Sex After 40!

photo via IMDB In a recent “Your Call” post, a reader of our site oh-so-casually mentioned how she became multiply orgasmic in her forties, after a sexually unsatisfying marriage. Turns out she’s not the only one. After a rather boring sexually 13-year marriage, I have found a whole new world of sex. I love it […]