Comment of the Week: I Never Met a Vulva I Didn’t Like

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John Bender, in response to the post “10 Reasons Your ‘Ugly Vagina’ Is Normal and Gorgeous”:

I am almost 60 years old. I have been with a fair amount of woman in my life. All colors and persuasions. I have never seen a vagina that I did not grow to love and adore. Because it was a part of the woman I had grown to love and adore.

Occasionally a few had very strong aroma, but it was usually a medical condition from poor body chemistry balanced (caused by diet or stress) or a yeast infection. I always gently discussed with my girlfriend and with a little attention the issue was resolved.

Other than that long lips, small lips, large amount of hair, sparse hair, I never consider this organ could ever be considered “ugly”.

NOTE: The current trend to shave the vulva totally turns me off. I don’t want to be with a prepubescent girl I want to be with a woman. And the 5 o’clock stubble really sucks.


  1. I agree the prepubescent girl comment can get irritating – but so do comments about pubic hair getting in the way, or that it’s gross or unclean. You don’t need to justify what you like or criticize what you don’t. No body is ugly to someone who cares about you and that should include yourself!

  2. I think it does make sense – prepubescent girls have no pubes, hence you will look like one if you go hair free. Some men like it some don’t. A male beard and female pubes can hardly be compared in that context, not all men can grow a beard. What makes someone attractive has nothing to do with pubic hair in the first place does it. If you think you’re hot, it’s contagious.

  3. I appreciate what you have to say. Except one thing – people need to stop making the “no hair = prepubescent girl” argument. Plenty of people, myself included, shave because it just feels better. Hair gets in the way. If other people want to have hair, more power to them, but it’s not for me. The argument that men who prefer (or even like!) the hairless look because it makes the woman look prepubescent makes no sense. Would you argue that women who prefer a clean shave to a beard are the same – also preferring a prepubescent look?

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