Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I am pregnant and keep having the same dream. That my boyfriend has different personalities and tries to control me from calling the police or my family or anyone to get help before he kills me. It’s very vivid and scary. What could this possibly mean?
Lauri: Dreams during pregnancy can absolutely make you think you’re whack-a-doodle! So you seem to be right where you should be dream-wise. Believe it or not, it is actually extremely common to dream of death and murder while you are pregnant. The reason is because being pregnant ends your life the way you once knew it to be. In addition, you have to forcibly end (murder) certain behaviors while pregnant like smoking, drinking, strenuous exercise, etc.
This might explain why your boyfriend is trying to murder you in your dream. To start with, he’s the one that got you pregnant, therefore killing off not only your life as you once knew it, but also killing off your old identity, because you are now an incubator and soon will be a mother.
As far as him controlling you… is he on you about what you eat and what you do, so as not to endanger the baby? And if so, is he on you more than you would like him to be? If that’s the case and he’s not trying to control you in any other way, then this could be a good sign that he will be an attentive daddy once your little munchkin pops out!
It’s also possible that you are getting this dream because you now no longer feel in control of your life or your body, which is perfectly normal when you are pregnant, and especially so if this is your first. It’s a hell of an adjustment to make. So relax. And tell that man of yours to relax, too. Your pregnancy will be over before you know it and it can really be a magical journey if you let it.
By the way, you may want to get my first book, So, What Did You Dream Last Night? It has an entire chapter on pregnancy dreams, how they change through each trimester — and it even covers daddy-to-be dreams as well!
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- Dear Dr. Kate: Why Can’t We Get Pregnant?
Want to be able to figure out your own dreams every morning? Lauri’s latest book, Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, will give you the tools you need to become a Dream Expert too! Check out all of Lauri’s books here.
My boyfriend was murdered in real life. I had a dream where we was holding each other and a friend of his shoot him up in front of me and than killed 2 other friends. I watched all of them get killed. My boyfriend kissed me on the forehead, told me he loved me and let his arm go and started walking into a body of water. I was crying so bad calling his name but he never looked back. And I watched him walk in the water until I couldn’t see him anymore. I could hear police sirens. Than I just woke up. I talked to him 3 days before his death, I saw him a week and a couple days before that. We was having some issues but he said he wasn’t giving up or moving on he was just trying to get himself right. Do you know if he was trying to tell me anything or was it closure.