Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I dreamed that my deceased husband came back and all he wanted was sex. At the same time I said, “Don’t you see me, I’m losing all my teeth.” Then he got mad at me and said, “No, we better not, you might get sick.”
Lauri: I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I can see how this dream would have you scratching your head. It is more likely that this dream is trying to help you with life after him, rather than it being him coming through to you in the dream.
I don’t know how long it’s been since he passed, so I am going to assume it’s recent enough that you are still adjusting. His desire to have sex is really your desire. Remember, this dream is a creation of your own mind, so everything in it is of you.
It’s very interesting that you turn him down due to concern over losing your teeth. While that would surely kill the mood in real life, I think it is actually more symbolic of something you feel you are losing. In my research I have found that when we lose teeth in a dream, it is because we have allowed something out of our mouth that should have stayed in there permanently, we said something without thinking about it first. Is there anything you wish you had never said to your husband before he passed? Or is there something you wish you had said?
Losing teeth can also be connected to feelings of being inadequate. Have you been feeling less of a person since your husband passed? He then proceeds to get angry with you. Remember, this is really YOUR anger. Are you in the anger phase of grief? Or are you angry at yourself about something?
Whatever it is, you are told in the dream that you might get sick. Pay attention to whatever you are told in a dream because it is coming from your wise, subconscious, intuitive self. Have you been making yourself sick with grief, regret, anger or anything similar? Your dream states you might get sick, so it’s not an issue yet, but perhaps getting close. So take care of yourself, forgive yourself, and love yourself. It’s going to be okay.
Dreamer’s Response: Thank you so much. I’m pretty sure you hit this right on the nail. I lost my husband 18 months ago. I have always felt that I didn’t tell him enough how much I loved him. And that I had guilt that I didn’t care for him long enough. Because he died so quickly. And yes I do feel inadequate. I miss him so much. He is all had. … again, thank you.
Visit Lauri’s site, WhatYourDreamMeans.com, for even more dream interpretations! If you want to be able to figure out your own dreams every morning, then check out her latest book, Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, which will give you the tools you need to become a dream expert, too. Check out all of Lauri’s books here.
I keep dreaming my deceased husband keeps coming back wanting me back. But i keep denying him because of another man I’m with in a relationship. But on my dream he keeps returning as an animal the turning into a man. And doing all he can to get me back. Trying to break up me and the man I’m with. He has been gone3 years now. What does it mean
My dead husband came back for sex he was passed away on the 21 December 2012 on an accident I’m worried about this dream what do you mean can you explain for me please