Dream Interpretation: My Ex and My Current Boyfriend Are Interchangeable

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I had a dream where my current boyfriend of six months, whom I just moved in with a few months ago, and my ex boyfriend (we were together and lived together for three years) interchangeably play the same role in my dream. One second in my dream it’s my current boyfriend, the next he is my ex. In the dream I am being rejected not in a harsh way but I am not wanted in my new home and my boyfriend has another non-sexual heterosexual male friend over. I am there to collect my belongings. I feel a sense of apprehension and a small amount of pain. I have been thinking of my ex but I am content in my current relationship. This has just left me a tad bit confused and curious as to how I am really feeling about my life right now. Seeing as though I never remember any of my dreams, this one definitely seems to have some significance.

LauriIndeed this dream has quite a bit of significance and it seems to be showing you that you haven’t fully let go of your ex, or at least fully let go of any resentment, anger, and feelings of victimhood that the relationship may have caused.

According to your dream, by not fully letting go, you are essentially allowing your ex to reside with you and your current boyfriend. He is renting out space in your head! That ex must have really done a number on you. It’s very common when someone goes through a horrible break up to bring the pain into their next relationship, which is totally unfair to the new love interest. Be honest with yourself; is this what you are doing?

You should also ask yourself if perhaps your current boyfriend is cut from the same cloth as your ex. Do you keep falling for the same personality type? Is your current boyfriend starting to exhibit similarities in behavior and the way he treats you as your ex did? If so, your dream may be warning you that you are pretty much dating the same person. This is up to you to decipher. If your current boyfriend is becoming eerily similar to the ex then you need to realize that you don’t need to learn that lesson a second time and get out.

If your current boyfriend is nothing like your ex, then your dream is showing you that you MUST let go of the resentment because there is not enough room in your life, or your home, for both your boyfriend and your anger. Three’s a crowd, dahling.

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  1. I had a dream I was with my current boyfriend and gave him a hug and then he told me that he brought someone to see me and it was my ex- boyfriend. Then told me to go with my ex. My ex hug me like he missed me like we were back together again. What does this mean?

  2. Hello,
    I had a dream in which my ex-boyfriend was calling my actual boyfriend. My ex-was telling my actual he doesn’t know me at all, that he is the one who was paying for my school, that I am so very different. My actual was listening and he was trying to explain to my ex that he knows me. One of the weirdest things is that I was in bed in my dream- with my actual and I was listening the conversation but none of them knew that. I was wondering how they have each other numbers because they can’t possibly know that.
    And while my ex-was speaking with my actual, my actual start to transform into a teenager, in another person.
    What do you think that means?

  3. Hi, I had a dream about my ex boyfriend and in the dream he was ok at first but then he became like a monster he was chasing me and i was running i locked myself in my room but he was still trying to get in being aggressive . Then somehow he left and as i was trying to run away i phoned my current boyfriend to come and fetch me and that was when i woke up.

    What could this mean?

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