2/18/10


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  1. My boyfriend loves cuddling. Sometimes I want sex, straight up, and he’s the one saying “can’t we just cuddle?”. A little frustrating but I realize that I’m lucky to have a guy that loves to snuggle.

    Only time when he doesn’t is when he’s sleeping, trying to sleep.

  2. I am personally not a big cuddler.If I do it it is for my husband or there are those rare occasions that I do but it’s very brief. I like to hold hands though. Although that could be because my hands are always freezing. LOL

  3. Like most women, I think I am much more into cuddling than My Man. He’ll DO it, but usually under duress. 😉 LOL! No, he will, but especially in the morning, he’s a “get up an go” guy and it drives me crazy, because especially on the weekends or one his days off, I’d like to lie there and bask in the after glow for say…..a few hours. After a few minutes, he’s squirming to get going. *sigh* It’s a little better at night, but even after many years together, he still has “physical contact” and “sex” inextricably linked.

    A few nights ago, he was tired and didn’t really want to have sex, but I had been promised cuddling before we went up to bed. When I reached for him, he was like, “I don’t wanna right now.” I reminded him about the cuddling, and he acquiesced for a few moments and then he started squirming because “your ass is up against my dick and I’m getting horny.” OMG. I told him to just ignore it, since HE wasn’t in the mood (can men NOT do this?) He somehow overcame his Urge (I guess, I would of gone for some sex, but HE wasn’t in the mood) and we did fall asleep like that, only to both break away an hour or two later. It was sweet, but he’s not as much into cuddling as I am. And he snores….

    He likes backrubs and head scratches a lot, I think he gets his non-sex physical contact in that way a lot. He is very physical, we are always hugging and smooching, at home or out, and I sit on his lap often in the evening while we are sitting around reading or watching the tube (to the embarrassment of our older kids, the little one doesn’t care) so I shouldn’t complain.

    I do think a lot of men just associate any contact with a woman with sex, so just romantic cuddling with NO sex is difficult for them. I don’t know if it’s conditioning or just physiology or what it may be.

  4. I’m halfway in between two answers. I usually like some post sex cuddling, but I cannot begin to fall asleep if someone is touching me, so if I’m going to drift off, I’m going to need to separate first.

  5. We cuddle far more than we have sex. There’s not a single night that we don’t go to sleep wrapped in each other’s arms. It’s just a different kind of intimacy. So, yes, I like to cuddle… with or without sex.

  6. Right now I’d rather cuddle than have sex (dry spell). It’s the cuddling I miss most! (well, ideally I’ll get both soon.)

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