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How To
10 Novel Ways to Ignite Your Relationship (from Readers!)

We asked readers to give us their single best tip for lighting up their love life, and we got a lot of inspiring answers. So many in fact, that we’re not just going to publish the 5 big winners of the 5  Wildfire Pleasure Oil Prize Packages, we’re going to publish the top 7 runners up […]

Research
Which One of the 4 Categories of Relationships Are YOU In?

by Merethe Najjar for YourTango Find out where you fall. Personality quizzes abound all over the internet, and it seems that everyone is looking for a simple way to answer carefully selected questions and find out secrets about themselves. Even more persistent are articles and quizzes designed to mystically let you in on the potential for a […]

Personal Essays
An Everywoman’s Visceral Reaction to the Election of Trump

A few days after November 8th, I was talking to a friend, a progressive everywoman, who said she couldn’t stop crying or throwing up. I wasn’t sure if she was kidding. “Are you really throwing up?” She said yes, that she could only manage the occasional piece of chocolate and cup of tea, even though […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, Sex Is Suddenly a Tight Squeeze — and It Hurts!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, I have been having sex for about four years and for the past […]

Toys
Last Chance to WIN $200 in Wildfire Pleasure Oils (Odds Are Excellent)!

*THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED* If you enter now, you’ll probably win one of Wildfire‘s $200 gift packages of pleasure oils — seriously! We’re still looking for a few good answers to the question “What’s a surefire way to ignite your love life?” Take 2 minutes to tell us this week and chances are great that, with […]

News
Special Thanksgiving Issue: Love in the Time of Turkey

However distasteful it may sound, there are a lot of similarities between cooking turkey and having sex: prepping naked skin, heating things up, getting stuffed, being done — and when you really think about it, they’re both kind of gross…

Dream Interpretation
I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Ex (Who I Don’t Want Back)

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Lately I’ve been having my ex-boyfriend pop up in all my dreams. We were together […]

How To
#TRUMPSGIVING: How to Survive Thanksgiving with Family Members Who Voted for Trump

Chances are you’ll have to spend Thanksgiving with a few family members who voted for the human candied yam. If after a year of this orange shit-storm they’re still somehow fans of the Man-Baby-in-Chief,  you could always just cancel holiday plans all together; after all, what the pluck is there to be thankful for? But if […]

Your Call
Your Call: Should You Tell Your Roommates You Can Hear Them Screwing?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m staying at my friend  and her boyfriend’s […]

How To
8 Ways to Be a More Touchy-Feely (and Therefore Healthy & Happy) Couple

Did you know that “touch deprivation” is a legitimate psychological condition? Matthew Hertenstein, who is the director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University, states that not only is it a real thing but compared to other cultures, Americans are perhaps the most touch deprived culture on the planet. “Most of us, whatever our […]

How To
10 Ways You Can Join the Rebel Alliance & Fight the Galactic Empire!

We went to a “Post-Election Reproductive Justice Strategizing Meeting/Potluck” at our local Planned Parenthood last night (the theme: These. Doors. Stay. Open.) It was packed! Wall-to-wall nasty women plus a few (not enough) bad  hombres ready to roll up their sleeves and get to work. Even the spread of community contributions was impressive: olives, nice cheese & crackers, veggie […]

Toys
CONTEST: How Do You Light Your Fire? Let Us Know & You Could Win Big!

*THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED* Our new friends at Wildfire want to make a you a deal: tell us your surefire way to ignite your love life and they’ll give the 5 of you with the best suggestions a Wildfire Love Pack worth over $200! The Details: In the form below, please describe your best tip(s) for spicing up your […]

Confessions
Yay, Our First Trump-Inspired Hater!

Well, that didn’t take long. A sad Trump-supporter who projects his own self-hatred onto women went on a tear through the comments of the post “My Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least It’s Small to Me.” Add this to the growing number of public expressions of hate now legitimized by Trump’s win. We’ll keep loathsome comments up as long […]

News
Why Donald Trump, America’s Abusive Boyfriend, Won the Election

How did the least qualified person ever to run for the presidency of the United States manage to win? In large part, by negging us. Negging is one of the pick-up artist community’s cynical and manipulative strategies for seducing women. A man deliberately delivers backhanded compliments and other sly insults to his “target” in order […]

News
Why Your Sex Life Wants You to Vote for Hillz on Tue!

Last week, we sent out “The Em & Lo Down” newsletter (which you should totally sign up for!) with the following: WHY HILLARY IS THE BEST PRESIDENTIAL CANDIDATE FOR YOUR LOVE LIFE! Supreme Court Justices that won’t overturn Roe v. Wade Support of Planned Parenthood Improvements to Obamacare, which covers birth control, testing for HPV, […]

How To
8 Ways to Spice Up Date Night!

Getting some quality time with your partner, let alone making time for sex, is not always easy. So, when you do get some precious hours to yourselves, you want to make the most of it, right? It’s easy to fall into a dinner-&-a-movie rut. So use these tips to take a ho-hum date night to […]