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Win a FREE High-End Rabbit Vibrator from LELO!

THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED. But you can still sign up below for EM & Lo’s once-in-a-while newsletter of kick-ass sex & relationship tips — that way, you’re guaranteed to be a winner! Are these shorter days and darker nights getting you down? Then maybe you need an energizing bunny to put the hop back […]

How To
The Best Sex Tips from a Stand-Up Comic

by Michael Hollan A lot of people think that stand-up comics must get laid a lot. Well, no. Most stand-up comics are pulling in normal numbers. People think that because we perform, and are funny and always meeting new people that we must live like rock stars. Nope, we live like traveling salesmen. It’s not […]

Wise Guys
Do Men Snoop On Their Partners As Much As Women?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do men snoop on their partners? (E.g. reading their texts or emails when they’re in the shower, listening in on phone calls, etc.)” Ask the guys your own question here. Straight Single Guy (Colin): Unless it’s an emergency situation, we just don’t want […]

How To
10 Steps to Getting Casual Sex Right

At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that “casual” means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. (Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all!) […]

Advice
The 4 Motives of Pick-Up Artistry

The following is part of a series on pickup artistry by longtime reader and contributor Johnny: When I first looked into PU – not the game, but the actual real-time community – I was surprised at its positivity. If it had been full of anger or misogyny I would have been turned right off by […]

Say Amything
When Loneliness Makes You Sexually Stupid

I’ve been thinking a lot these days about what it means to feel uncomfortable.  Is it really so bad to feel bad?  Why are so many people conflict avoidant?  What does it mean when we brush up against each other the wrong way, and what would happen if we forced ourselves, just once in a […]

Your Call
I’m Not Ready for Porn — What TV Shows Could I Have Sex to Instead?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, My partner and I aren’t […]

Horoscopes
Your Weekly Horoscopes: Sept 28th, 2015

aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th) Concentrate on making money rather than on making sweet love. But when you think about it, what’s the difference? taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th) A friend or relative will introduce you to someone new and (keep your fingers crossed) interesting. Of course, this could mean you’ll be meeting your Aunt Myrna’s renowned […]

How To
6 Ways to Stimulate Your Senses During Sex

1. Wear a Blindfold You could light some candles or twist in a red lightbulb to alter the visuals. It would be a good idea to go for candles, especially the ones that are fragrant. Many studies reveal that scent can have an impact on sexual experience. Though you may not notice it instantly, you […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Libido Makes Me Sleep with Mr. Wrong

Dear Em & Lo, I feel like I’m stuck right now. I meet plenty of young men that are very interesting, and eventually, after spending some time with them, I get attached. Something that sounds very normal but turns out to be very painful in the end. So here’s my problem: no matter how hard […]

Sex Poetry
The Sexy (and Sick) Parts of Ovid’s Metamorphoses

This epic poem from the Roman bard published in 8 A.D. outlines the “history” of the world through 250 transfomative-themed myths over 15 books. Sexual desire was traditionally described in ancient Rome as a burning flame (not much changes over 2 millennia), so Metamorphoses has a lot of hot imagery. But it’s not all positive. Like a provocative, […]

Wise Guys
Why Do Men Like to Spank in Bed?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys like to spank their partners in bed?” Ask the guys your own question here. Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): I really took one for the team here. In the interest of sexual science and sound advice, I carried out […]

How To
7 Kinds of Porn Your Guy Probably Watches (and Deletes from His Browser History)

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango Let’s just say we delete a LOT of browser history. We live in a gilded age — a time in which pornography flows freely and unimpeded thanks to the internet. Now, any desire can instantly be fulfilled via 1080p stream in the comfort of your own home. Whether you close […]

How To
5 Super Nice Ways to Say “You’re Not Good in Bed”

Sex is so easy, even chickens with pea-sized brains can do it. (Speaking of: If you’re looking for a hilarious and enlightening post about how, exactly, chickens do it, go here. You’re welcome. Em has a coop in her backyard with eleven hens and one very lucky rooster, and even she learned something.) But if sex is […]

Confessions
What “Intelligent Design” Has to Say About Strap-On Sex

We love a good burn — and a good burn that overturns gender-based stereotypes about sex is even better. Which is why we couldn’t resist featuring MVP commenter Johnny’s zinger this week, which was in response to an old-school nay-sayer in our (ever popular) conversation surrounding the post, “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with […]

Say Amything
Falling in Love with a Woman…When You’re Married to a Man

When I left my husband, it was because I had an affair with a woman. I loved my husband a lot, and we had a great time in the bedroom, too, but I’m of the opinion that you can pretty much teach a monkey to do the stuff you need for your body to ride […]