Each week, we at EMandLO.com predict the course of your love life for the week with our own version of irreverent horoscopes — ignore our advice at your own peril! (Hyperbole intended for dramatic effect.) aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th) It’s time to sign your own Declaration of Independence: You are better off being friends with everyone for now until you […]
Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Seeing as Independence Day is coming up, what’s your number 1 tip for making fireworks in the bedroom?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Pop champagne! Sex is all about letting go of inhibitions and nothing helps you tap into those deep, […]
Reader Matt said the following in response to our post, “How to Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm”: Are you on any anti-despressants? I once dated someone who was able to have orgasms readily, but after going on Prozac, was suddenly unable to. It’s worth considering if any medications […]
The vagina is a sensitive little thing, but there are some easy ways to nurture it – while these tips aren’t guaranteed to ward off problems like yeast infections and UTIs, they’ll certainly help: 1. Always Pee Right After Sex Especially if you’re prone to urinary tract infections. If you’re especially prone, consider showering after […]
1. Cheating on your wife won’t just mess up your marriage — it could seriously impact your future relationships, too. Because at some point, your new girlfriend is going to ask, “So, er, hey, what happened with your marriage?” Then you’re going to have to admit that you cheated on the mother of your child. And the chances […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Dear Em & Lo, I am afraid that […]
Freud really screwed things up. Add ass play to the long list of fun sex acts he turned into big social no-no’s. Sure, he said fascination with your own bum was an important and necessary part of a child’s development, but then he diagnosed that same pleasure in adults as immature and dysfunctional. Why should […]
aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th) If you’re not with someone who’s got their head in the game (or at least between your thighs), start thinking about trading players. taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th) It’s probably best to avoid slipping some Spanish Fly into your partner’s cocktail, attempting stealth hypnosis, or tying them to your bedpost in the […]
by Nathaniel Frank for Slate When I was in college and first realized I might be gay, I was terrified. I pictured living in a remote cabin with a dog, the better to avoid the rejection of a society where I didn’t feel I could ever belong. My shame—my wish to flee instead of to […]
Ladies, you know how you feel when you’re overweight and even your fat jeans don’t fit anymore? Or you’re having a bad hair month at the same time your best friend scores a role in a shampoo commercial? Or what about when you’re finally forced to admit that you’re not, in fact, a B-cup bra […]
For a lot of women, intercourse is not always like pizza: i.e. even when it’s bad it’s good. Nope: when intercourse is bad due to pain, it’s really bad. There are many reasons why intercourse can hurt: an infection, an STD, vaginitis, vulvodynia, PTSD (perhaps due to a previous sexual assault)… But if you’ve ruled these […]
by Julie Orlav for YourTango Words are POWERFUL. Words can cut you, heal you and even inspire you. Learning the language of relationships and marriage takes time and diligence, but saying some words regularly may cause irreparable damage. Here are five words that are destined to damage your relationship: 1. “Never” Never implies a sense […]
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys care about what a woman wears, or is she basically just dressing to impress herself and her fellow females (and perhaps her gay friends)?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris DiClerico): Yes we do. We don’t necessarily care about brand names, the […]
Saying “I love you” can become a form of punctuation in a long-term relationship. People say it at the end of a phone call, or on their way out the door, or as they’re falling asleep at night. And there’s nothing wrong with this. Expressing love often is a good thing! And it’s a nice way to check […]
When you move in together, what you lose in mystery you make up for in intimacy. But lack of mystery can kill romance and passion. So here are 7 steps to make sure living together doesn’t ruin good lovin’. 1. Be courteous. People often assume that manners are meant to govern the interactions of strangers […]
We often get advice questions from virgins (usually straight and female) asking how long they can make a guy wait, if it’s realistic to hold out for the right person, and whether or not there are straight non-virgin guys out there who are willing to wait. To them, we offer these 10 inquisitive ruminations on virginity […]
