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How to Spot a Hipster in the Bedroom

Last week we wrote about how to spot a hipster in the wild. Inspired by that, we decided to put together our own guide to spotting hipsters. Here are our top twenty ways to know you’re having sex with a hipster. 1. Hipsters love to 69. 2. Hipsters love to make sex tapes using their […]

Personal Essays
5 Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On

photo via flickr EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: In the movie Manhattan, Diane Keaton says to Woody Allen that he’s the kind of man she could see herself have kids with […]

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10 Rules for Doing It in the Great Outdoors

We were going to hold off on this for a few weeks, but the weather has been so beautiful recently (thank you, climate change!) and that means plenty of people will be feeling the need to answer the call of the wild. Here’s how to answer it responsibly: First, and most importantly of all, make […]

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5 Better Ways to Express Your Intimacy

photo via flickr A recent survey by Pew Internet and the American Life Project found that one in three teens had shared a password (email, Facebook, etc.) with a friend or boyfriend or girlfriend. Apparently sharing your password is the new way to express intimacy, to prove to your partner that you have nothing to […]

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The Ten Worst Things You Can Say in Bed

photo via flickr If we had to distill our entire body of sex advice into one word, it would probably be this: communicate. Before sex, during sex, after sex — speak up, people! It’s the only way to get what you need and want, and to make sure that your partner is getting what they […]

Dear Em & Lo
How to Understand His Porn Habit

photo via flickr Is masturbating to porn cheating? Readers are always asking us this question, and the masturbator in question is pretty much always a man. Sometimes his female partner writes to us, asking if she’s right to feel cheated on. Other times the man himself writes to us, asking why his partner can’t understand […]

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5 Ways to Reconceptualize SEX

  We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again: Sex is not intercourse. So stop using the two words interchangeably! When we as a society do this over and over again, it gets into the collective unconscious and starts limiting how we imagine the possibilities of pleasure, especially for women. A majority of women (that’s […]

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Oral Sex Tips to Use on Her

photo via Flickr Yesterday we reviewed the blow job basics. Today, it’s time for your cunnilingus refresher course. Like getting in shape or getting rich, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to going downtown on her. What worked on your last girlfriend may not work on your current one; what worked on your current […]

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Oral Sex Tips to Use on Him

photo by Public Domain Photos Sometimes it’s good to review the basics — you know, take a refresher course on a sexual staple like fellatio, especially if it’s been a while or you’ve gotten into a rut or you’re simply not as confident as you’d like to be in the oral skills department. If you […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Losing Your Virginity Ain’t No Big Thang

photo by mccun934 A college friend of ours who wishes to remain nameless has a confession to make: As a 21-year-old virgin I thought sex was going to be the most overwhelming, painful, awkward, terrible, awful experience ever.  Why did I think this?  Because friends, magazines, and blogs all over the place said so. Not so! Yes, cashing in […]

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Your Guide to Taxicab Date Etiquette

photo via flickr Everyone knows it’s polite to open the car door for your date — and we hope that everyone knows it’s a nice touch when women remember to do this, too. But what happens if you live in a city where you’re more likely to take a cab? If you hold the cab […]

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8 Rules of the Booty Call

We’ve all been there: Out on the town, feeling good after a cocktail or five, you don’t want to go home but you can’t stay where you are, and no one has made you any offers you can’t refuse yet. So you fish out your phone to daringly (read: desperately) see if one of your […]

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5 Ways to Keep Sex Fresh and New — No, Seriously

photo by John Brawley If you want to feel like it’s the very first time, then it’s important to keep sex surprising and try new things regularly. You can’t get lazy. So give the following steps a try every now and then. You might feel silly being “experimental,” but the occasional awkward moment is a […]

Dear Em & Lo
5 Quick and Easy Ways to Embrace Your Inner Dominatrix

Lelo cuffs from Eden Fantasys Dear Em & Lo, My boyfriend and I have great sexual chemistry and things have been going really well both inside and outside of the bedroom, but there’s one small issue: we’re both on the sexually submissive side. Though it is not usually an issue, it is clear that we’d […]

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Redefining Foreplay

Foreplay is not an obligatory two minutes of making out, it’s not purely physical, it’s not a routine that automatically earns you intercourse, it’s not just for women, and it doesn’t always have to be candle-lit (though florescent overhead lights are never seductive). The idea is to free foreplay it’s traditionally narrow definition. Think of it […]

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How to Talk Dirty Without Being Dirty

photo via Flickr A lot of people refuse to talk dirty because they are afraid of sounding stupid (see this week’s Wise Guys about what NOT to say in bed). But you don’t have to say things out of character, throw around more four-letter words than Gordon Ramsay, or speak in pornographic detail in order […]