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The Difference Between Kink and Abuse

Are there no decent men in the world? NY Attorney General Eric Schneiderman was supposed to be one of the good ones, a champion of the #MeToo Movement who was going after alleged serial sexual assaulter and rapist, Harvey Weinstein. But then The New Yorker (which might seriously need to consider changing its name to “To […]

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The 10 Best Couples Costumes to Repurpose for Roleplaying

What is forbidden in the real world can sometimes make for a fun romp between consenting adults (who’ve explicitly outlined their boundaries and agreed on a safe word). It’s called roleplaying, and there are two components that can really help you get into character: 1) the right outfits, and 2) a backstory with emotional tension, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How to Tell Your Husband It’s Okay to Ravish You (a Little)

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’m just about as […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can He Skip the Couples Costume This Halloween?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader.   Dear Em & Lo, My girlfriend wants to do a couple’s costume for Halloween this year. I don’t. I think it’s cheesy […]

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5 Reasons to Wear Lingerie (Especially If You’re Not the Type)

LELO’s Halter Camisole (on sale now for half off) We are not ones to put more undue pressure on women (or men for that matter, though they could use some more time in high heels) to live up to some unrealistic ideal of style and beauty. If you’re comfortable in an old worn oversized cotton […]

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Dear Em & Lo: How Great Should First-Time Sex with a New Partner Be?

photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, I was married for 20 years and now I am not.  I’m not crying in my soup (is that the term?). I’ve learned a lot about what makes for a crappy relationship and bad sex. And I have gained a sense of humor, sexual confidence and a pretty […]

Pop Culture
Top 15 Worst “Sexy” Halloween Costumes

We recently published a top 10 list — only slightly tongue in cheek — of “sexy” Halloween costume ideas for men, in an attempt to balance out the playing field this October 31st. To highlight exactly why the world needs more Sexy John Boehner Crying and Sexy Walter White, here is a top 15 list of […]

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Top 10 “Sexy” Halloween Costume Ideas for Men

You’d think by now we’d be unshockable, but every year we continue to be flabbergasted by the sheer range of Halloween costumes that are sexed up. (Sexy cheeseburger, seriously?!) What’s not shocking at all: That 99.9% of these costumes are for women. So here are some ideas for men who are looking to gratuitously sex […]

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Top 10 Timely Halloween Costumes for Couples

It’s only three weeks to Halloween, which means that if you plan on doing something more elaborate than throwing a sheet over your head and saying BOO! a lot, you better get your act together soon. So, with that in mind, here are our top ten ideas for timely Halloween costumes for couples. We make […]

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Quickie Advice: How Can I Get into Roleplay?

Lelo’s French Maid ensemble Last week, we were on Kiss FM in Toledo promoting 150 Shades of Play and fielding listeners’ questions. There were some good ones, so we wanted to share them here on EMandLO.com this week. Each day we’re featuring a quick question with some lightning advice from yours truly. Today’s question: I don’t think I could […]

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What We Talk About When We Talk About “Fifty Shades of Grey”

This may be sacrilege to say, but we can’t seem to muster any interest in reading the new, best-selling erotica novel that everyone’s talking about, Fifty Shades of Grey. After all, even the author admits that it’s not that good! For SM erotica, we’d rather stick with a classic like Story of O. Yeah, yeah, […]