Advice from three of our “Wise Guy” friends. This week a straight woman asks, “So what’s the deal with fake boobs — are straight guys into them or not? Does it make a difference whether they’re just looking (e.g. porn, strip club, Hollywood star) vs. touching (e.g. a hook-up)? And does it make a difference whether the hook-up is casual or relationship material?”
Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): Here’s the thing about fake boobs. They work. It’s the same for gay guys. Just substitute silicone for steroids. I know plenty of guys who have gone from Plain Jane to Ripped Rita via syringe, and rollicked in all the dating perks that come with that. It is lame, they look ridiculous, but it truly, truly works. To be totally fair, though, the real equivalent would be penile implants, which are currently as effective as supergluing Play-doh around the member so it appears larger. And let me tell you, if they ever perfect the art of penile enhancement, every guy you know will have an eleven-inch penis. Let me repeat: Every. Guy. You. Know. At that point, glance waist level in a locker room and it would look like something Tarzan used to traverse the jungle. Which is why it amazes — and inspires — me that every woman doesn’t have humungous breasts. You are the stronger sex. Like I said, if men were in that position, this would be a nation of Pamela Mandersons. (Oh, and indulge a gay guy: Why are “A-cup” boobs small and “D-cup” boobs big? Shouldn’t it be the reverse? As in, “Look at those grade A boobs! She’s stacked.” And flat girls are in danger of socially failing with a “D”? I mean, this is classic grading on a curve, right?)
Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): As a guy in my twenties, I have basically grown up surrounded by breast implants, so they don’t tend to faze me. I can recall on more than one occasion pointing out a beautiful girl, and hearing an older guy say, “But she has fake boobs,” and I’m like, “So what?” To me, fake boobs usually look better than their natural counterpart (which is not to say I haven’t seen horrendous, overdone and very strange looking fake breasts). But admittedly, much like artificially flavored food, no matter how close to the original they get, the real thing always tastes better. Saline boobs tend to feel like water balloons, which can take away from the heat of the moment. I’ve felt silicone ones that were so close to the real thing it didn’t matter, but at the end of the day a soft real breast is as sexy as it gets — and I think most men would agree. Besides, bigger isn’t always better. While I appreciate a large set of melons as much as the next guy, I also think small breasts can be very sexy. Another concern is if my future wife could breastfeed. (Didn’t China just recall baby formula because it contained Melamine? No thank you.) Ultimately, though, men love breasts — big, small, real, fake, we usually are just happy to see them, feel them, sleep on them. The decision to get implants should be the woman’s without any outside influence. Whatever you decide, like the bra you wear, we men will support you.
Straight Married Guy (Jim): There’s definitely a difference between looking and touching. The only time I’ve ever (knowingly) handled fake breasts, they felt like the knees of a Shaq-sized newborn: velvety-soft but concealing a hard, round mass. (That means they were cheap, right?) I have never heard my straight male friends say anything negative about the sight of fake boobs (or about the individual woman for having a surgically enhanced bust, for that matter), but displeasure has been expressed with the feel of stony fakes. Most men wouldn’t avoid a hook-up based on bust fakery, unless they’re reading into your personality through your bra. It’s still a hook-up, right? But as with anything else in the bedroom that can’t be changed through intimacy and patience alone, if it’s a turnoff for this theoretical guy, it might sink the relationship.
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Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Jim from New York, our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter, and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett, owner of the LA PR firm Barnett Ellman. To ask the guys your own question, click here.
I’ve got no problem with fake boobs. I find them a huge turn on!
I prefer natural breasts, regardless of size. While larger breasts may get more visual attention, for a prospective partner I would rather that she had smaller breasts that were not surgically altered. For better or worse, I would wonder why someone would have surgery to alter their own body cosmetically (and if they have body image issues). That doesn’t mean that someone who has implants has body image issues, but it would make me wonder until I got to know them.
For similar reasons, I don’t ever intend on getting cosmetic surgery myself.
Reconstructive surgery, on the other hand, is completely different (to me).
Safety is a concern as well depending on the material (or capsule).
Lastly, I believe that I would much prefer the feel of a real breast. While I haven’t been with a woman with breast implants, I think that it would be a different experience (with vs without implants) if I were to lay my head on my partner’s chest and wanted to simply listen to her heartbeat, or her breath.
to look at great, in my hands, awful. keep it real girls – you’re naturally beautiful.
A top-notch boob job is undeniably awesome. Most boob jobs aren’t top notch though.
Boob jobs are best in a bra or bikini top. Fake boobs at the beach? BOI-OI-OING! I just don’t want to see that under-boob scar.
I almost always prefer natural boobs. The feel, the look, the bounce… ain’t nothing like the real thing.