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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

In the past couple of days I have had weird dreams about my wife. The first dream went like this: She wasn’t feeling too well so I took her to see the doctor. At the clinic/hospital, there was a sea of doctors to choose from. Trying to lighten her mood, I asked her to pick a cute/good looking one (I don’t think I really specified male or female). She then picked a male doctor, who happened to be someone I knew from medical school (we were classmates). He came along and I started to tell him about her symptoms (a fever, etc), she told me I didn’t know exactly how she felt (in a nice way) and shooed me away. Next I found myself in some kind of vantage position (picture being on the top bunk of a bunk bed and looking down on the bottom bunk over the edge). The doctor started examining/treating her and then I saw that he started fingering her and my wife was moaning. I don’t really know what happened afterwards but next thing I recall is my wife coming out to meet me in a waiting room with that smile and after-sex/after-orgasm glow. I woke up shortly after.

Second dream: We were in our apartment and I was in the living room and she was in the bedroom with another woman (I don’t think I know who it was). It seemed like they were either just cleaning or talking. The next thing I recall is that they were making love. I did not see them in the act and I somehow didn’t have the willpower to get up to go to the bedroom to actually look at them but from the sounds it was clear what they were up to. While I was in the living room, I happened to be watching porn on the TV. Then I vaguely recall them climaxing in the room and I in the living room.

What can all these possibly mean?

Lauri:  The hospital setting of the first dream suggests that there is something within the marriage or perhaps something solely with your wife that needs to get better… and it seems you are trying to help correct the situation.

The way your wife says that you don’t know how she feels when you are trying to describe her symptoms may really be connected to her feelings that you don’t understand her. Has she recently said to you, “You don’t get it; you don’t know how I feel.”? Or “You don’t know how I should feel?”

The vantage point you have either means your wife feels you “look down on her” or something she is doing, or it could mean you are trying to rise above the issue at hand, take the high road, etc.

At the end of both dreams your wife orgasms, which is a good indication that she has taken care of the waking life issue on her own. What has she done in waking life, without you? In what way has she brought completion or satisfaction to herself? It seems that, through these dreams, you are realizing that she has become self reliant in some respect.

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Each week, Lauri tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means here on EMandLO.com. Here’s this week’s:

My girlfriend told me today she had a dream where the tip of my penis fell off and I put it back on like it was no big deal. She said this happened in the dream while we were just sitting around.

Just some background on us. We’ve been dating for over 5 yrs and everything is really good. We’ve lived together for the past year and we laugh every day. What do you think her dream could mean?

Lauri:  The detachable penis is actually a very common dream — however, the detachable tip is a new one!

Typically, male genitalia in a dream is often connected to male energy in waking life: being assertive, growing a pair, manning up, etc. To dream that the penis has come off can mean that the man in question has surrendered some sort of assertiveness and taken on a more passive, caring or nurturing role in real life. So for your tip to come off, and then you reconnect it rather nonchalantly, may mean that she feels you have easily stepped into and out of a more passive or more gentle role recently.

However, since it is only the tip, perhaps she feels you have only scratched the surface in some way, or have only touched on the tip of the iceberg, so to speak. Is there something she wants a little more of from you. Excuse me, I mean…. a lot more of!

Also, is there anything that has been on again and off again, as far as she is concerned? Hmmm… also the “just sitting around” makes me wonder if there is something she feels you need to get up off your duff and take care of. Run this analysis by her and let us know what she says!

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Each week, Lauri tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means here on EMandLO.com. Here’s this week’s:

I had an odd dream. I was going to a movie with my boyfriend and they were searching people. He got searched and then walked on ahead while I took my turn. The guy searching me reached into my shirt and touched me inappropriately.I started screaming and a cop started yelling at him. My boyfriend came back and said “What’s taking so long?” and paid no attention to me crying. That’s the weird part to me, because he is not impatient and he is nice to me. So nice that when I woke up and texted him I had a bad dream he called me and asked if I was ok.

Lauri:  It seems some situation or some person in your waking life is getting too close for comfort… at least at the time of this dream. Your chest area is brought to attention in this dream, which makes me wonder if you were recently feeling pressured to open up and get something off your chest, so to speak. It could even be pressure you were putting on yourself.

It’s very interesting that your boyfriend asks you what is taking so long. Even though he is the one that says it in the dream, it is really a question you are posing to yourself. What is it YOU feel is taking so long? Is it taking a long time for you to feel comfortable enough to open up about something? Could it be those three powerful words you aren’t quite sure you’re ready to say yet? Or is it something else?

The fact that you are crying could mean that it’s taking a long time to heal from an upsetting situation, perhaps a healing from a previous relationship. Whatever it is, it may be time to open up about it.

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I’m a guy but I had a dream that I was a girl, but it wasn’t really focused on the fact that I was a girl. I was a girl in a shopping cart on a highway and I was driving the shopping cart with a baby in green blankets in a rectangular box.

Lauri:  Gender-bending dreams are more common than you might think. These dreams aren’t so much about the body of the opposite gender but more about the energy or qualities of that gender. Therefore, you being a girl in this dream may be more about you taking on a more sensitive, caring, or even creative role in your life recently.

The shopping cart suggests that you are in the market for something new in your life, such as a new relationship, a new job, a new attitude, something like that. I believe the baby means that you have obtained this new element in your life and your dreaming mind is showing it to you in the form of a baby so that you will realize this new part of your life requires lots of care and attention, like a baby, so that it can continue to grow and develop into something positive and healthy. And driving down the highway seems to suggest that this new element in your life has the potential to really go places!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, another reader continues the running Sapphic theme and asks Lauri:

I have recently been diagnosed with depression and am currently on prescription medication for it. But for the last couple of months, since I’ve been taking these meds, I’ve had the weirdest dreams.

I keep dreaming that I’m being hunted down by a serial killer. Some nights I dream that he finds me and threatens me with a gun while he rapes me. Other nights I dream that I commit suicide just to make sure he doesn’t find me. He does horrible things, like crushing the heads of baby animals… I once dreamed that he made me have sex with another woman. I am not gay. This was terrible… I do not know who he is, but it is the same guy featured in every dream.

Please help me understand why I am having these dreams? Apart from the depression, that was triggered by the traumatic birth of my daughter (she is a healthy 9 months old now), I am happily married with the normal toils of everyday life, nothing spectacular. I keep thinking about my dreams during the day and they seem to make me even more depressed and are hindering my work as well.

Lauri:  Many prescription medications affect REM sleep, causing you to be in REM longer than normal and also causing your REM time to be more intense. That’s not to say that your dreams during this time should be dismissed as a side effect so I am glad you are seeking out their meaning.

The murderer in your dream is most likely your depression. It hunts you down daily and is killing off who you really are. He also rapes you because rape in a dream is really about you feeling screwed over in real life. The depression has really  f***ed with you, hasn’t it? He crushes the heads of baby animals because this is all going on in your head. It’s crushing the joy out of your life.

The other woman most likely represents you not feeling like yourself. You are a different woman than you used to be and the sex symbolizes that you are merging with this unfamiliar person: the depressed you.

Don’t let these dreams cause a vicious cycle within you. Understanding them will certainly take the fear out of them. In addition, it may take a little time for the meds to kick in. If the dreams don’t change and they are still freaking you out, then by all means, ask your doctor to change the medication. Let us know how things work out for you!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

So I’m a girl , I had a dream last night that I was with another girl, we did a lot of stuff that lesbians would do. This girl is someone I know, but not someone that I’m really close to. We used to be really close, but not anymore. Anyways, last night my dream was about me and her in a bed, she was doing stuff to me.. then I started to touch her and when I went to eat her out we got interrupted by a bunch of guys that were drunk, then she got up and started to drink with them and I left. Does this mean I like girls? I’ve always wondered if I do. But is this dream telling me I actually do like them ?

Lauri:  I believe this dream may be more about your relationship with this girl rather than about your sexuality. I believe, through this dream, you are expressing a desire to be close to her again AND you are trying to figure out what went wrong.

See, the thing about sexual activity in a dream is that it is more symbolic of “coming together” on some emotional or psychological level than it is about “coming together” on a physical level. So the intimacy in this dream is more about the intimacy of the friendship you used to have.

Now, notice how — when describing the actions in this dream — you said, “She was doing stuff to me… then I started to touch her and when I went to eat her out we got interrupted…” Does this seem eerily similar to what went down in real life as far as your sort-of break-up is concerned? Was she “doing stuff to you,” such as saying mean things or doing things that upset you? And were you ready to really let her have it, you know, “chew her out,” but something stopped you?

The interruptions by the drunks could also symbolize the interruption of your friendship. Whatever it was that caused you to not be so close anymore is being shown to you in the form of drunks to let you know that — whatever it was — it was most likely caused by distortions of the truth or not thinking clearly. You guys allowed something to cloud the truth of your friendship just like alcohol clouds one’s judgment.

It seems that deep down you miss her. Maybe this dream could be a good conversation starter! Or maybe not… It could freak her out. Nonetheless, give this some good thought, because good friends are hard to come by.

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I dreamt I was sitting on a bed in a strange room with my husband’s baby momma. I was combing her hair. Some was real and some of her hair was fake. We are talking. My husband is in the room walking around. He just got out of the shower. I was asking her when they started seeing each other again. (He had a child with her before we married. The child is 19 and now he is talking with baby mama. Secretly. Lying about his communication with her.) Why am I being nice and understanding and combing her hair?

Lauri: You find yourself in a strange room in this dream because you are in a strange place in waking life (hubby lying about his communications with his ex). You are combing her hair because you are trying to comb through and sort out your own thoughts regarding her. You see, hair in dreams often represents our thoughts because — like hair — our thoughts sprout from the head. The real hair represents true thoughts and emotions you are dealing with, and I believe the fake hair represents your thoughts regarding what is not true in your life right now.

You are having a conversation with her because a conversation needs to happen in real life… not a conversation with her, but rather a conversation about her. I think your husband coming out of the shower is the way your dreaming mind is telling you that you need to allow him the opportunity to come clean on his own. Perhaps they are talking about their son and that is all. Hubby may not be telling you — yet — because he doesn’t want to upset you.

I would take your dream’s advice and give him the opportunity to come clean. If he doesn’t in a timely manner, then in order to put this to rest, hence the bed, I would open up a friendly dialogue, hence the friendly tone of the dream, rather than an accusatory one. You get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar, after all!

Dreamer’s response: Thank you. Thank you. I have tried to talk with him and it ends with me angry and him shutting down. Two days ago I decided to back off and let us have this discussion when we are face to face (he does contract work out of state). When I made and accepted that decision, I became and felt calmer, more in control of my emotions. I agree with you 100%. Thank you again. Blessings to you.

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I had this dream about one of my girl friends, and she was falling and I saved her. She told me she loved me and kissed me on the lips.  Does this mean I’m bi-curious? And would there have been a chance she had the same dream too?

Lauri: Is there a chance she had the same dream too? It is possible. There is a phenomenon called shared dreaming where two people have the same or a very similar dream on the exact same night. It usually happens to two people who are very close: husband and wife, best friends, mother and daughter, etc. The reason why is because the two individuals are dealing with the same issue and their subconscious responds to it similarly by giving them comparable dreams.

That being said, the only way you can know if she had the same dream is to ask her!

Does it mean you are bi-curious? Probably not, because dreams are more symbolic than literal. Plus, if you were bi-curious you would probably know it long before this dream.

Now, let’s see if we can figure out the meaning of it. The falling aspect of this dream means that she or perhaps even you have suffered some sort of let down or perhaps even an emotional crash recently.  In real life, have you supported her emotionally, held her up as she was crumbling or stopped her from making a mistake in some way?

The kiss may symbolize intimate conversation because, like kissing, it takes two mouths to communicate. Did you support her or help her recently through a deep and meaningful conversation?

It’s great that she tells you she loves you. Yes, this could reflect her love for you as a dear and supportive friend but it is also important to keep in mind that whatever you are told in a dream – no matter who is saying it – it is really coming from the deepest part of yourself. So I believe this declaration of love is really recognition from your subconscious for a job well done in waking life. So good job, young lady!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Background: I had a dream in the preceding months where the zombie apocalypse started (dang “Walking Dead” before bedtime) and I ran into a HUGE futuristic hotel I’d never seen before. The hotel in the dream below is the same hotel. Also, I am in a relationship.

The dream: I entered the hotel, alone I believe, and met a young blonde girl (much like myself). We talked and walked, but all I could focus on was her face. It wasn’t painfully obvious she was a lesbian, so I listened and admired her, trying not to get to flirty (I was). When we finally got to my room, we were about to say goodbye, or I was going to kiss her. I was thinking, “I’ve got a girlfriend, but I like her a lot…” Then I woke up.

Lauri: It’s not that uncommon to dream of a location that exists only in your dreams more than once. Typically, settings in dreams represent a certain “area” of your life. The hotel setting of your dream represents an area of your life that is temporary or that is in transition, since we stay in hotels for a temporary amount of time. Are you concerned your relationship may only be temporary? Or is it going through a transition right now?

The unknown gal in this dream could represent a desire for another relationship (if you aren’t jumping up and down over your current one). However, it is more likely that she represents a part of yourself (everything and everyone in your dream represents a part of you or a part of your life) because you did, in fact, mention that she was like you.

It is significant that she had blond hair. The blond hair suggests that you need to lighten up in your thoughts or in your words… or that you are in the process of lightening up. You are attracted to her in the dream because your inner self wants you to really like the idea of being lighter in your attitude or in your mind.

It’s also interesting that you were going to say goodbye to her in the dream. I think that is connected to the temporary element of this dream. I’m wondering if maybe things are going well and you do feel lighter emotionally, but worry that it won’t last. Whatever the case, keep this lighter, brighter side of you alive and well. Don’t say good ye. A lighter, positive attitude can work wonders in your life… and especially in your relationships!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I dream about my high school sweetheart often. The last time I dreamt of her, I was surprised to learn she was in the hospital, I went to check up on her and talk to the doctor, and she told me she missed me very much. I wake up crying. In another one, I am walking in the street holding hands with her. In another, we are classmates in school. I want to talk to her but I can’t.

Whenever I dream about her I cry and then I wake up.

Lauri: You might automatically be assuming that these dreams are about your childhood sweetheart, and I have no doubt you do miss her to a degree, but it is more likely that after all these years, she has become a symbol for the innocence and purity of a new and exciting relationship.

Have you been through some heartbreak lately? If so, that’s where the crying comes in. Whatever emotion you experience in a dream can always be connected to that same emotion you are having in waking life. You may be crying in your dreams because you aren’t allowing yourself to fully express your sadness while awake.

The fact that one of your dreams took place in a hospital suggests that in waking life you are trying to heal from something… heart break maybe? Or perhaps you are trying to make a current relationship better. The school setting tells us that you are learning valuable lessons right now, perhaps relationship lessons. And most importantly, not being able to talk to her is probably connected to a communication issue in real life. Are you having trouble communicating in a current relationship or in general do you have a hard time speaking up about what’s on your mind?

Whatever the case, I believe these dreams show you still believe in love and pure relationships so don’t ever lose that! Holding on to bitterness and distrust will ruin relationship after relationship. And life is too short for that nonsense.

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