Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:
This is kind of a two part dream involving my best friend and a mutual friend met through my best friend. I’m not gay, however like some men I have had a curiosity but never a desire to act out on anything.
The dream starts off with myself and the mutual friend standing in what i believe is his house near the front door, no words are spoken but there is some laughing coming from both of us, the mood is oddly calm. I look down and he suddenly pulls his penis out and without a second thought I drop to my knees and begin performing oral sex on him, however he stays flaccid. But seems to be enjoying the oral sex.
About thirty seconds into performing on him, I go into the second part of my dream involving my best friend. In the next part I walk into my bedroom and see my best friend lying in my bed sleeping. I walk around to the other side of my bed, crawl in and get up close to him and whisper in his ear asking if he wanted a blowjob. He turns around and reluctantly says yes.
I immediately begin giving him a blowjob and suddenly I hear a noise outside my door, I jump out of bed and crack open the door only enough to see out and see my father walking down the hallway in the opposite direction. I turn to my best friend and tell him not to worry because my dad never comes into my room. I again begin performing oral on my friend and a few seconds later I find myself walking down a street searching for our mutual friend’s house as so we can finish what was started earlier. That’s when the dream ends.
Lauri: For those who are bi-curious, dreams can be a safe place to explore the experience. So that could be what your dream was providing for you. But, you know me, I love to dig and see if there isn’t more to the dream… because there usually is!
In my research I have found that oral sex in a dream can often be connected to intimate communication in real life. Before this dream, had you and your friend had a deep or intimate discussion that was enjoyable to both of you? He remained flaccid despite the fact he was enjoying what you were doing. This may suggest that, like the calm mood of the dream, the waking life conversation remained calm rather than anyone getting tense or “taking a firm stance,” ahem.
In the second dream you offer oral sex to your best friend. So again, ask yourself if you recently had a meaningful, intimate conversation with him, one that he may have been reluctant to have — just as he was reluctant in the dream. You also woke him up in the dream, which is a huge indication that, in real life, you may have woken him up to some reality or perspective through your conversation.
What you say at the end, “…so we can finish what we started earlier” is very telling. What did you three start that you wish to finish? Was it a meaningful conversation? Was it a great idea? Was it an enjoyable debate? Whatever it is, THAT is what this dream is all about. Do let us know what you now think this dream is connected to. We love to hear the real life juicy details here.
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