Question of the Week: Where Do You Stand on the 69?

What’s your opinion on the 69? Is it a win-win in the bedroom, the ultimate in quid-pro-quo? An intense, in-your-face (literally!) intimacy? Or is it distracting/boring/complicated/claustrophobic?

Leave your response in the comments section below (feel free to share your age, gender, relationship status, etc., if it’s relevant to your answer).

Say Something

10 Comments on "Question of the Week: Where Do You Stand on the 69?"

Notify of

Sort by:   newest | oldest | most voted
3 years 8 months ago

I’m not a fan. I find myself getting too distracted by one part of the experience and not focusing enough on the other. I’d rather just enjoy receiving without needing to worry about sucking him at the same time, or focus on giving him head and enjoying his reaction without being distracted by what he’s doing.

Jersey City Joe
3 years 8 months ago

It is over rated. It is almost impossible to relax enough to enjoy your partners ministrations while you are doing your best to pleasure them.

3 years 8 months ago

I think 69 is one of the more misunderstood sex acts.

Old Idea: one of you should be kneeling over the other in sort of a reverse missionary position. Not! That’s how it’s classically shown (it’s even shown that way on the statuary in the photo for this post!)

New Idea: One of the best ways I’ve found to do it is lying side by side using each other’s knees as pillows to support your heads. This also leaves each of you with at least one and usually both arms and hands free.

Old Idea: The point of 69 is to try and have simultaneous orgasms, “just like intercourse.”

New Idea: Simulta… wha? Seriously? What is this, 1965? 1972? Yes, “simultaneous orgasms” are great. But at least back in the 20th Century they were sort of a code for “he holds back as long as he can during intercourse because otherwise how will she come at all?!? Here in the 21st Century we’ve got lots of newer ideas. Like, oh, that when one lover comes first he or she will still take care of the other.

Old Idea: Even if simultaneous orgasms aren’t the goal, the point of 69 is still at least about mutual orgasms… otherwise why would you bother?

New Idea: Y’know, our partners probably don’t think our genitals are ugly, stinky, gross, shameful, boring or whatever. In fact, being able enjoy seeing, touching, tasting, and nuzzling you while you drive them to literal, unable-to-reciprocate distraction might make their experience of being eaten (not to mention your experience of eating) even more enjoyable. That plus if it’s a choice between looking at the ceiling while being eaten or looking at a partner I’ll take looking at her every time.

Summary: I think what makes performing 69 hard for a lot of people is that we think it has to be performed. No. Performance is for juggling with chain saws or attempting triple Lutz jumps in the Olympics. 69 works best when you both just lie back (ok, on your sides) and enjoy it.



C. Craig
3 years 8 months ago

I love it. Me & my man ALWAYS do the 69. He just turned 47 & I will be 39 ths yr. We rarely hv quickies, so whenever we make love, 69 is something tht we love doin.

Martha Boffin
3 years 8 months ago

I adore 69 so much! I just adore it when my man puts his fingers in my anus and my lady-parts and then focuses his mouth on my launch button.

Plus the goo is great for the complexion.