BDSM
Confessions
Sometimes You Just Have to Walk Away from a Marriage Over Sex

BigDudesStealMonkeys had a very thoughtful response to a vanilla woman married to a secretly kinky (and cheating) husband: I have a daughter, and I would be happy with her doing anything that made HER happy. If that’s BDSM, then so be it. Some people enjoy that type of playful sex, and who the hell are […]

Pop Culture
The Best, Sexiest, Most Affordable, Last-Minute Gift: 150 SHADES OF PLAY!

This is your last chance to give the MOST entertaining / romantic / kinky / informative / funny / sexy / outrageous holiday gift of the year! Our how-to companion piece to Fifty Shades of Grey titled 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is ON SALE NOW! Here are the remaining deadlines you have to beat […]

Confessions
Baby Talk in Bed Helps My Tough Guy Get in Touch with His Feminine Side

Reader Misty Marie posted the following in response to our post “Baby Talk: Intimacy Tool or Just Plain Gross?” It’s kind of an intense story, and we think she’s pretty brave for sharing it. Sure, maybe you couldn’t stand sleeping with a misogynist who treated you like this, and maybe some women would completely lose their sense […]

Wise Guys
Why Do Men Like to Spank in Bed?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys like to spank their partners in bed?” Ask the guys your own question here. Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): I really took one for the team here. In the interest of sexual science and sound advice, I carried out […]

Pop Culture
Out on DVD: Questioning the Kink in “Fifty Shades”

When Fifty Shades of Grey first hit screens this past February, our friend and colleague Gwynne Watkins — who writes for Yahoo, often awesomely about movies — interviewed us about how realistic the kink was. In honor of the movie’s digital & DVD release this week, we’re publishing the initial, unedited and unabridged email questions we exchanged […]

Pop Culture
Questioning the Kink in the “Fifty Shades” Movie, in Honor of Its Digital/DVD Release

When Fifty Shades of Grey first hit screens this past February, our friend and colleague Gwynne Watkins — who writes for Yahoo, often awesomely about movies — interviewed us about how realistic the kink was. In honor of the movie’s digital & DVD release this week, we’re publishing the initial, unedited and unabridged email questions we exchanged […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How to Tell Your Husband It’s Okay to Ravish You (a Little)

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’m just about as […]

Dear Em & Lo
How Do I Ease Into Kink with a New Partner?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, My bf and I […]

Confessions
How to Have Kinky Sex with Your Vanilla Husband

photo via Wikimedia Commons Reader subgirl said the following in response to our post, “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?”  Heads up, everyone in a mixed-cone, chocolate-swirl-slash-vanilla relationship, there is hope! I am a submissive woman and I have a wonderful vanill-ish husband who plays along with me. We communicate our needs to one […]

Movies
How the “Fifty Shades” Movie Is Better Than the Book

Yes, the movie was better than the book. Of course, if you’ve read the book, then you know that’s not saying much. The bar was pretty low to begin with. And one would hope that with a 40 mil production budget and a feminist director, that bar would inevitably be raised pretty high. Of course, […]