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You Don’t Have to Walk on Eggshells Around a Guy with a Small Penis

A really interesting conversation took place recently in the comments section of our post, “Is It Okay to Use a Vibrator That’s Bigger Than My Boyfriend?” In situations like this, we always tend to advise readers toward kindness, and also to letting the guy take the lead in terms of dildo size. But a reader named Jon […]

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8 Ways to Get Him to Focus on YOUR Orgasm for a Change

The following excellent advice from “CaspianC” came in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm.” We’ve taken the liberty of editing it ever-so slightly into an easy-to-read list (our additions are in brackets).  I was in the same situation. Well, it’s an ongoing issue, but it’s getting better. […]

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8 Tips for Getting Over a Breakup from the Inside Out

Reader Sam said the following in response to our post, “How to Get Over a Breakup (in 10 Easy Steps)”: I’m going through an awful breakup — years of addictive patterning, back and forth etc etc. I think tackling it as a physical, spiritual and emotional issue works best. 1) Immediately find a grief and […]

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How Meditation Can Help You Achieve an Orgasm

Reader Alex said the following in response to our post, “How Do You Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm?” I also have this problem. I believe that it has to do with how well you can “release” your mind. I have a really hard time just mentally letting go, […]

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Bigger Doesn’t Necessarily Mean Better

Reader LuckyGirl recently responded to My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me with the kind of comment more men need to hear. One important caveat to her otherwise sound response: 5.5 inches is not small, it’s average. Ok, I’d been with my husband for 25 years before he passed away. I considered him […]

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The Pros & Cons of a Wife Bonus

It’s the topic that just keeps on giving! First, we wrote about the new book, “The Primates of Park Avenue” (actually, we imagined several responses to the book about rich men giving their wives bonuses for “good performances” in poem form). Then we had to feature The Best of #WifeBonus on Twitter — because it […]

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5 Signs You’re Dating a Pickup Artist

You’re a straight woman, and you like this guy. You have fun, you have chemistry, and then you have sex. At which point, he seems to disappear. But not totally. Sound familiar? Chances are he’s read the Pick Up Artist lit and is following it to a T. Below, read up on the 5 tell-tale […]

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Comment(s) of the Week: Detectives Em & Lo Are On the Case!

We recently received two very suspicious comments to the post “Your Call: Do Bigger Penises Lead to Different Orgasms for Women?” (which have since been taken down). First, at 12:04am this morning, Thursday, May 14th, someone calling themselves “MSTT” wrote: Exactly man. All women like big dicks. But they value other things more you know? […]

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Comment: Why Size Matters…Until It Doesn’t

Reader MrAverage said the following in response to our post “Your Call: Do Bigger Penises Lead to Different Orgasms for Women?” Size matters and it doesn’t. Let me explain that apparent contradiction. My wife’s ex was an acquaintance of mine – we played on the same soccer team. He was hung, everybody joked about it, although not huge […]

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Comment of the Week: 4 Ways Men Can Seem Taller

In response to a question from a reader this week about a study saying women are only attracted to men 6 feet tall and up, Johnny — one of our MVP commenters — propped him up pretty perfectly: HA! Bullshit. Short guy here, reporting that I’ve always done just fine. If you’ve got a thing for […]

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Comment of the Week: Who Causes Wet Dreams? Could It Be….Satan?!

In response to a letter from a woman who orgasms in her sleep, we got a very interesting and creative analysis of what is actually going on from Amandah. It’s not sexual tension or the subconscious playing around with one of our strongest primal urges. Nope! Amandah schools us in the facts. (Ed. note: grammatical […]

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Comment of the Week: How to Pay for Dinner, and How to Let Someone Else Pay

MVP commenter Johnny weighs in on our post “Who Do Men Think Should Pay On a Date?” We would say that his final line, “Two drinks buys you nothing but a chance,” should be put on T-shirts and handed out to college guys across the country. Except that certain fraternity members would probably take this to […]

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Comment of the Week: 6 Rules of the Pre-Relationship Fuck-Buddy Couple

Reader Arielle wrote a nice response to the post How Often Do Fuck Buddies Become Girlfriends?, basically outlining the 6 rules of having a fuck buddy who you might want to turn into a partner some day: All of my relationships have been fuck buddies that turned into relationships.  Twice I’ve gotten my heart broken because the guy was […]

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In Defense of Sex Toys, Feminism and Trolls

For the most part, we tend to ignore the trolls. But every once in a while, outlandish claims need to be addressed to ensure that reality-based facts win over fear, insecurity and hate. In response to a post about a woman whose inability to orgasm without a sex toy was hurting her boyfriend’s feelings, one […]

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Comments of the Week: Sexuality Is Fluid

photo via flickr We loved these two responses this week to our post, “Your Call: I Was Bi, But Now I’m Not Attracted to Men. What Happened?” The first is from reader (and frequent Comment-of-the-Weeker!) Nikki: You should look up “fluid.” That might be you. Some people’s sexual orientation shifts over time. In fact, some […]

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Comments of the Week: The Sexual Satisfaction & Compatibility Quiz

photo via Wiki Commons This week, in response to our Your Call question “My Husband and I Don’t Care That We Don’t Have Much Sex. Should We?“, two of our MVPs were quick on the draw with spot-on answers. First, Nikki wrote: This sounds like more of the tyranny of “normal.” If you have a […]