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Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Tell My BF He Sucks at Oral?

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I’m 21, he’s 28. He’s the only person to ever perform oral sex on me, so while I have no one to compare him too, I know that he is bad at oral sex. He pushes his entire face on […]

How To
5 Ways to Reconceptualize SEX

  We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again: Sex is not intercourse. So stop using the two words interchangeably! When we as a society do this over and over again, it gets into the collective unconscious and starts limiting how we imagine the possibilities of pleasure, especially for women. A majority of women (that’s […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: Is a Post-Toothpaste Tingly Oral Session Safe?

photo by sahxic Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, Lately my manpanion has been going down on me at night following teethbrushing. Needless to […]

How To
Oral Sex Tips to Use on Her

photo via Flickr Yesterday we reviewed the blow job basics. Today, it’s time for your cunnilingus refresher course. Like getting in shape or getting rich, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to going downtown on her. What worked on your last girlfriend may not work on your current one; what worked on your current […]

How To
Oral Sex Tips to Use on Him

photo by Public Domain Photos Sometimes it’s good to review the basics — you know, take a refresher course on a sexual staple like fellatio, especially if it’s been a while or you’ve gotten into a rut or you’re simply not as confident as you’d like to be in the oral skills department. If you […]

Personal Essays
Confession: A Taste of One’s Own

Max, one of our Wise Guys, has a confession to make: Ladies, face it: After a blow job, your average man would like you to swallow his seed, plain and simple. Whether that’s because of pride, practicality or a penchant for raunchiness may vary from guy to guy, but a lover’s choice of spitting over […]

Research
How to Close the Orgasm Gap

image from nDevilTV It’s not exactly rocket science to say that men orgasm more often than women when they have sex with each other. Now, if you had to guess, what do you think happens to this orgasm gap as a relationship progresses from casual hookup to repeated hookup to serious commitment? Yep, the orgasm […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: She Doesn’t Like Going Down

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I hate […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Doesn’t Oral or Manual Feel Like My Rabbit?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I have […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Gagging During Oral — Hot or Not?

photo by Public Domain Photos Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men think about a woman gagging while giving oral sex? How does the fact that it’s a porn trope affect your real life experiences? Is it a turn on or do most men just feel […]