Why Aren’t Some Men Up for Going Down?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Why do guys seem to dislike giving oral sex more than woman seem to dislike giving it?

jon_rossGay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I’ve met a bunch of straight men and woman who dislike the pastime, which is a bit of a mystery to me — most gays just love the activity! One in my position can only speculate, but I wonder if it’s a fear of “the other” that has some people so squeamish. Sure, everyone loves sex, but some just want to keep to keep everything perfectly aligned, mouth to mouth, genitalia to genitalia. I bet the people who shy away from oral sex are just unfamiliar with how everything works down there or fear they’ll get a mouthful of a bodily fluid.

chris_diclericoStraight Single Guy (Chris): I hate to disappoint you, but we don’t all dislike giving oral. I’m not fishing for dates here, but I personally love giving as much as receiving. I promise I can have that verified for you. I think many guys are just too anxious to get to sex. I suppose I was too when I was younger. Now that I’m a little older, I’m much more interested in leaving a good impression. My recovery time isn’t the same as it once was either, so I guess I’m compensating somewhat, but I remember always being pretty into it. I don’t know if there’s a secret. Ladies, keep things nice and trim down there: consider going with a complete “no spin zone” or maybe even a vajazzling to try to drum up some interest. (He should do be willing to do the same for you.) And speaking of reciprocation, remember the golden rule: if you give good head then hopefully you’ll get good head in return. I guess the only other advice I can give if you’re still having trouble is that you can find me on Facebook pretty easily…

Straight Married Guy (Mike): Who said that men dislike giving oral sex? Nothing is more arousing than the smell of a woman. So, just for selfish reasons, oral is a great way to start. However, there are obviously men who are repelled by the idea and women who are self-conscious, but it’s nothing that a little personal hygiene won’t cure. As for women, there seems to be much more pressure and expectation to expertly perform orally — the blowjob is a fixture of porn and is practically de rigueur. I wonder how many women really enjoy being a service provider?  With either, a little communication would go a long way: as exciting as oral sex can be, there’s also nothing worse than when it is half-hearted.

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23 days 8 hours ago

I love to go down on a woman. But there is rule for me to do that. I want it clean. Now I understand if a girl is on her period and done that. Not what I mean. If it smells like tuna or cat food I ain’t eating. And I have to really drunk anf horny as hell to fuck it. But there will be a rubber used if it ain’t right. But other I love taste my woman. And make her feel really good.

30 days 21 hours ago

Its personal taste but I love going down on my wife. I’d do it way more often than she could want. The thought and taste highly arouse me along with the idea that she is getting so much pleasure from it. I don’t think I’d do it just for my sake (if it didn’t get her off) but she never has to ask me for it. For each their own I guess.

2 years 29 days ago

to be honest i don’t know whats wrong with me but i can’t do it without feeling nauseous and if i keep it up i just start dry reaching. my wife is really understanding thank god. we’ve talked about it and there was a couple of times where i persisted only to puke which killed it. i love my wife so much and i just want to please her. she goes down on me but now i don’t want her to do that because i can’t do the same. there’s nothing wrong with her and i feel so inadequate. I’ve… Read more »

2 years 1 month ago

Sorry ladies, I cannot stand it. I think it’s utterly disgusting, I can’t explain why. To me it’s like a food, you either like it or you don’t. I love receiving a blow job and practically vomit at the thought of going down on a woman.

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2 years 9 months ago

Before my first piece of tail I was told an old adage. If it looks good,feels good, tastes good then the chances are it is good to go there. So going down is always a part of foreplay. To the people who don’t want too go down you don’t know what you are missing. A good healthy pussy is so sweet and you know she is enjoying it when she pushes your face harder into herself. I have even got caught after my first climactic burst going for seconds and getting fresh blood, to find myself in the first day… Read more »

2 years 9 months ago

I am a gal who use to love giving my man as many favors as HE could take. And then later on I would get my treat in return. But as I have gotten a tad older, im not so ampted all the time to do it, and my current boyfriend isnt a very big giver what-so-ever. This is what I did. I talked to him. Told him how I felt. And it took a little time, but he loosened up and now he’ll go downtown but not nearly as much as I would personally like and now that im… Read more »

3 years 6 months ago


There seems to be something wrong even in the beginning, 2/wk ??? At first it’s typically 2/day, and if you have a 4 yr old than I am assuming your still in prime sexual peak, so decreasing down to once a month is just weird. I would guess your guy is fantasizing and jacking off with his porn addiction. YES ADDICTION, and you are not doing it for him, no normal women could. Better rethink your relationship