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Dear Em & Lo,
My ex-boyfriend’s new girl will not stop harassing me! It took me a while, but after 6 years (age 16 – 22) of verbal and physical abuse I finally broke up with my high school “sweetheart.” I moved out of the county (small town), stopped communication with mutual friends, and have not contacted him since. I now live over 1000 miles away. My ex and his new girlfriend (now fiance) continue these trash campaigns against me on Facebook and by prank phone calls — they get their entire family involved (did I mention I used to date rednecks?).
I have never met his new girl nor tried to contact her. The old me would have retaliated against them but I know it will only make things worse. But I can’t pretend that their hateful words towards me AND my family doesn’t affect me.
After one of their episodes, I contemplate for days on how to get revenge. I think of threatening them by releasing photos, videos, and letters because I know it will hurt her. I’ve considered posting responses on my Facebook that would showcase their insecurities and ignorance. But I know any reaction that I show will only create more drama and give them the satisfaction of thinking I still care. But I do care. I obsess for days on how to make them stop for good. I never go through with anything and eventually I forget about it. Then a month goes by and it starts again.
I’ve kept quiet for nearly four years. I’m completely fed up and they don’t seem to be moving on. What could (or should) I do without compromising my integrity? Please help!
Thank you,
Head Held High
What should HHH do?
The technology just makes it so easy to stalk and harass people. With the phone calls and online attacks recently with my ex, I think I want live in a cabin off the grid.
I have a female friend being constantly called, text, and recently mailed a letter by an ex-boy friend. She has gone to police but he has connections with local police and they swept it under the rug. I fear that this guy is going to eventually do something. He says that he is moving on but days later he is back at it. What should she do?
Sounds like Grace has the best advice! YOU don’t have to let this continue! Do yourself a favor and stop being the victim! Use Grace’s advice!!!!