We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below:
Dear Em & Lo,
The guy I started dating 8 years ago was (and is) an awesome guy. He was basically everything I ever wanted out of a guy, and more. The problem always has been that we almost never have sex. We have sex 4 times a year if I’m lucky… let’s just say I got laid more when I was single. There’s nothing wrong with the equipment, he just has a low sex drive.
Moreover, he’s not the same guy I started dating. He’s become like a 10 year old boy. He never wants to go anywhere, he just wants to play video games. He’s become a massive workaholic, we never do anything fun together. And, quite honestly, I think that he would have sex with me if he had to do it for work.
I stopped initiating sex as of about 2 years ago, because I didn’t want to be rejected any more. We’ve tried everything that we can think of. The few times a year he does feel like having sex, it’s boring. Worse, he doesn’t even shower, or brush his teeth during the weekend so we can’t do anything spontaneous.
Clearly, I’m going to break up with him, but not until I get disability (I really can’t work)… and this makes me a terrible person. Also, I really want to have sex with other people, which definitely makes me a terrible person. But doesn’t withholding sex kind of make him selfish and shitty, too? I know 2 wrongs don’t make a right, but I HAVE to get laid. I’d love to hear what you guys & The Peanut Gallery have to say…
— Blue Box
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