Your Call: Should She Dump Him Before or After Xmas?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below:

Dear Em & Lo,

I’ve been dating this guy since the summer but it’s just not working out, and that’s become abundantly clear to me in the last few weeks — we’re just too different, I’m not into it, and I don’t have any hopes for the future. He’s not a bad guy, he’s just not for me. I know I have to break up with him, but my question is whether I should do it before or after the holidays. Christmas and New Year’s is right around the corner. I know he’s bought me at least one present and we were planning on going to a friend’s New Year’s party together. Is that just heartless to dump him only days before Christmas, or does prolonging the inevitable somehow patronize him and make it worse?

— The Grinch

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21 Comments on "Your Call: Should She Dump Him Before or After Xmas?"

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Many thanks to the girls out there reading this for NOT taking my previous comment as an opportunity to ‘flame’ an insensitive slob.


Still no word back from the Grinch? WTF??
She couldn’t still be in her room lying on her
bed crying her eyes out because she made the wrong
decision could she? Oh she could. Oh well, in that
case; never mind.


I’v been dating a guy from Uni for about 2 months now, and he then went and dumped me on Jan 2nd. Just after i’d spent Christmas with the family, saw loads of old friends and told everyone how lovely this new guy was and what a great time we were having.

So although i would have felt shit over the holidays, i really wish he’d done it BEFORE so i wouldnt feel so damn stuipid now!


I’m with henry, figuratively speaking that is.


OK, it’s after Christmas and it’s after New Years.

We’d all love to hear the outcome of this situation.

Hello, Grinch???

I too am in the same situation as the Grinch. I have been dating my boyfriend for the last 4-5 months, but after 2 1/2 months, I realized that I wasn’t happy with where things were going and wanted out, but wanted to give it a chance and completely make sure that I was sure of my decision before I made any drastic changes and pulled the rug out from beneath his feet. Then, event after event popped up on the calendar and I didn’t want to ruin it for me as the big event that I dumped my boyfriend… Read more »

i personally got dumped around 5th Jan, and like someone else has commented, i did feel something wasn’t quite right during Christmas/New Years (esp when he didn’t want to spend New Years with me!). looking back, I think i would prefer it happen before the holidays so I wasn’t tricked into thinking it was just a rough patch. Then again, I think he thought he would get 1 last Christmas sex from me!