Dear Em & Lo,
About six months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months and have recently met someone new. The other day the new boy and I were engaging in some hands-on action which led me to discover that he nowhere near measured up to my ex. The new boy was around 4-6″. My problem is that I’m really worried about having sex with him because my ex was over 8″. I feel really disappointed and I know that 8″ is a high bar that’s been set. Am I bad person for thinking he has a small penis or should I go looking for something more? Why can’t good-looking men come with the measurements of their penis tattooed onto their wrist or something? The problems and surprises that would solve.
–Sizeist
Dear Sizeist,
We almost didn’t print your letter because of the emotional damage it might inflict on insecure men everywhere. It’s the secret fear that everyone — male and female — experiences at some point in their hook-up life: Am I being compared to my partner’s ex(es)? And if so, am I failing to measure up?
But on behalf of all the average-sized men out there, i.e. the vast majority of men, we highly recommend you give Mr. 4-6″ a chance. You’ve heard about society’s unfair expectation that women try to live up to impossible female beauty standards, right? Well, you’re doing the same thing, except with men and their dicks.
First, you need to understand that, statistically speaking, 8 inches is abberantly long; out of 100 men, only 5 will be longer than 6.3 inches! (Was it really 8 inches, or are you just bad at spatial reasoning?) It’s not like 8-inchers grow on trees and you’ve dated a string of giants and have come to discover (pun intended) that only super-sized schlongs can satisfy you. No, you just had one great experience with one rare “8-inch“ penis. And this is by no means a guarantee that sex with a 4-6″ penis will feel only 50-75% as great.
For a start, some men with big swinging dicks can get lazy in the sack, assuming that size is the only thing that matters. They may also assume that intercourse is the only thing that matters — and we all know how few women climax from intercourse alone; remember, orgasm achieved through non-penile means still counts as sex. Oral, manual, anal, toys — it’s all good, and in many cases, better! Not to mention, you may suddenly discover new penetration positions that you really enjoy — positions that perhaps were not so comfortable with a larger specimen. Oh, and don’t forget that, for the standard vagina, the majority of sensation is felt and enjoyed in its outer third, thanks to the extensions of the clitoris, the g-spot, and the pelvic floor muscles around the lower part of the vaginal canal (and also since a lot of women don’t enjoy having their cervix pummeled with a battering ram).
On a final note: Maybe he was nervous and not fully inflated, as it were. Basically, you have no idea what more extended and extensive sexual interludes are going to be like with this man. So if you dig him (and we surely hope the handwork you exchanged means that you do), why not find out whether the motion of his ocean can get the job done?
Of course, we can’t discount the fact that you may simply be less attracted to him (or not attracted to him at all) now that you’ve scoped out his unit — you like what you like. This doesn’t necessarily make you a bad person, though you are severely limiting your dating options. We suppose you could post a dating profile specifying that only 8″-penis-owners need reply. But something tells us that’s not exactly the way to find the next Boyfriend of the Year. Here’s a better idea: Spend some quality time with an average-sized penis and see if the experience — or the person himself — converts you? He is a human being after all, not a piece of meat.
Size is just a number,
Em & Lo
slvn, if you truly love her then let her cuckold you 🙂 meaning she gets to fuck other guys but you have to be faithful to her, usually in this case sh will slowly start to cut you off from sex so be ready for that
Hi! To everyone that posted and thanks for all the advice from the article. I have a problem and I don’t know what to do anymore, I have a 6.3 inch penis and 1.4 inch of girth. It’s a average penis in my point of view and used to be proud of it until my girlfriend of 3 years said that “truthfully its not long enough to make me climax”. That shattered all my confidence in myself. I don’t want to portray myself as great lover but I always given my 100% when it comes to making love, I go down for her for hours(and I love it) I massage and play with all of her body and try to turn every sense on specially the ones she seems to enjoy and I’ve ask her too so I’m not getting it wrong i hope, I keep it fresh with various positions new and all the ones she prefer I talk sweet and dirty to her and nothing… I can tell shes enjoying it all but never to an orgasm. Then one night I ask her if my penis wasn’t long enough for her and she said yes. I was able to satisfy and give multiple orgasms to my past girlfriends but never her the girl I love and wish to marry. I really need help for the past days I’ve been avoiding her and I don’t have a good excuse as to why but I can’t bare the shame that my penis is too small for her. Would some one give some advice I need it more than ever.
My boyfriends cock is so tiny, hes 21 and its only 4 inches hard. Damn near the size of a babies
You’re a very stupid woman because a 4 inch penis is not tiny.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHHA!!!!! I always laugh my ass off when I see these questions! I have a 5 inch something penis and I have girls addicted to me. Why? Because I know what the hell I’m doing. Ok, so the dude has a huge dick but if he doesn’t know shit about what to do to a woman than he’s screwed!!!!
Pls let leave it d way it is wethr d big or smal.cos God has a purpose 4 evrytin.bt wat mattr most is 4 a man 2 fuck ah hell yah of a vigina.
@Tracy – ummmm, are you dense on purpose??? Of course they (we) can! I’ve got 3 kids, 2 boys and a girl.
Jeez – some guys with small penises may be insecure, but the women are even more insecure!
hmmm i noticed that the larger the women the larger the penis it takes to satisfy…. obese women seem to prefer the 8 in cock…. im just saying lmao
Hippo holes require hippo poles…nuff’said
True. Only enormous vaginas require enormous penises.
can men with a small penis have kids
That has got to be the stupidest question ever asked. Of course they can Can you?
hello anyone out there lol
I dunno,lol. It does depend…. I am going through same thing. I do like the guy and we have been hanging around for couple of months now. I am still not sure I should persue anything real. For the fear that I might cheat for the penis. Cause sadly 5 3/4 is pretty small 🙁
First of all, you are extremely stupid because 5 3/4 is average. Second, cheating for the penis is not about love. That is what’s sad. Your ideas in regards to a real relationship just by those suggestions are twisted and sick. Love is what matters, not penis size. It is far better for a man to live his life with a small penis and for a woman to live her life with no heart
People! Seriously,lol, its not that difficult. You have what you were born with whether you’ve got a big penis or not. Just be thankful for whatever it is you got. There are always gonna be people out there who will have their opinions, whether they consider bigger is better or an average guy is fine. Cool, let them say what they want, its america! lol. I’m an average guy, still a virgin, and in no way do I worry when that day actually comes when ill have sex for the first time because I know that when I have it, its gonna be for love, and imma make sure that imma do everything and learn everything my woman desires to be done to her, and no I’m not delusional nor am I trying to fool myself, I know there are ladies out there with size obsession and that’s fine, its like whatever. I just believe that you shouldn’t need a big penis to sweep a girl off her feet. To the girl who’s dating the guy with the smaller penis, ask yourself whether or not you truly love him because if you do it shouldn’t matter. From what you said about him, its not like he’s hung like a hampster, he seems more than capable to get the job done,lol.
If it’s about love, than size should never matter.
Maybe your vagina is just too big and lose??
It probably is.
I love a man with a hard one.size isnt everything. big, small we like them all.
Yes man has a small penis also, but we deal with quite well. my man is very secure with the size of his tiney short penis,he has no problem when i call my friend over to give me that deep and full sexing i need from time to time because my man know that when my friend leave i take care of my man very well he has no compliants.My man’s penis is 4 inches swinging and 5 and 3/4 standing.I like a big long penis sometime and sometimes i like a small one so we can have fun when i tease my man about his short tiney penis.