Dear Dr. Vanessa: My G-Spot Hurts

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Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood ® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here.

When I have sexual intercourse with my boyfriend, whenever he hits my G-spot it feels good but it hurts far more than it pleasures. Is it suppose to hurt so much? It happens every time and usually post love making I will have a kind of sharp pain in my lower abdomen, and I was just wondering if something is wrong with me to experience this pain from G-spot stimulation. And it has always hurt in past sexual encounters with past boyfriends that have hit my g-spot.

Some women do report that their G spots are very sensitive and cause discomfort or pain when they are stimulated directly. A change in position during vaginal intercourse may solve the problem. In some positions, the penis is less likely to directly press on the G spot.

For readers who may be wondering what the G spot is, it is located within the vagina, about one to two inches from the vaginal opening. It is on the anterior vaginal wall of the vagina. Think of the vagina as a tube. The anterior vaginal wall of the vagina is the top portion of the vagina on the same side as a woman’s belly button. (The bottom part or posterior part of the vagina is on the same side as her rectum.) The G spot contains spongy tissue that may feel rougher than other areas of the vagina. The area is usually bean-shaped and about the size of a quarter. “Hitting the G spot” during penile-vaginal intercourse or through masturbation or “fingering” your female partner can result in intensely satisfying orgasms.

Now back to the question: a very sensitive G spot is not the only possible cause. It is also possible that the pain you feel after intercourse is unrelated to the pain you feel during intercourse.

There are many causes of pain before, during, or after sexual intercourse. Sometimes the cause is emotional. It could be fear, anxiety, or a previous traumatic experience during sexual intercourse. Sometimes the pain is caused when a woman is not aroused enough or is not lubricated enough. And sometimes the cause is from an infection or other problem with the internal reproductive organs. This could be a sexually transmitted infection or a non-sexually transmitted condition such as endometriosis, polycystic ovary syndrome, a tilted uterus, or fibroids.

The best way to find out what is causing pain is to consult your health care provider. Have a conversation about the pain you feel during intercourse and the pain you feel after. Try to be as clear as possible, when you are explaining your pain to the doctor. If it has something to do with fibroids, for instance, the specialist can recommend fibroid pain management, or any other procedures to ease your pain. Your provider might sometimes want to give you a physical exam to see if there is a physical condition that could be causing one or the other or both. At best, get the solution to the pain you are enduring from an expert before it gets worse.

No one should experience pain as a regular part of sexual activity. As always, anyone who finds sex to be consistently painful should definitely check with a doctor or nurse.

Best wishes for your good sexual health,

Planned Parenthood


  1. I wanted to join in, I don’t think anyone has answered the question grr. But I’m really curious and have this problem too, when my g-spot is hit it hurts, no matter how aroused I am. I try to go through the pain I’ll even squirt but it’s a natural body response. As she stated, it hurts far more than it is pleasurable. Like tickling the laugh is a reflex (you really want the person to stop). I don’t know if it is because I don’t have sex that way often and it’s just an overwhelming feeling but I really would like to know something as well. The pain will be in my lower abdomen for a couple days honestly. Even the suggestion of slow down and rocking motion doesn’t work, shit still hurts.

  2. as a fully menopausal woman, i believe one cause for discomfort in the g-spot has been overlooked in the good doctor’s explanation/advice.
    this has been happening to me even without any direct stimulation to my g-spot (i.e. no penetration, strictly clitoral orgasm, but if you know anatomy, the g-spot is connected to the clitoris). there is no pain during orgasm, but afterwards it aches for days. i believe this, in my case, is caused by low estrogen (not depleted, i do take bio-identical estrogen and progesterone). so, in my case, a lower estrogen level than the level a younger pre-menopausal woman would have. because of this, i’ve avoided having orgasms until i just can’t wait any longer (i have a fairly decent sex-drive), and then suffering with not only pain, but also moderate hot flashes until the pain subsides. finally it dawned on me to try a small dose of estriol cream directly on the g-spot, inside my vagina. ahhh… sweet relief. i may try this approach proactively (before orgasm), to see if i can prevent the pain and hot flashes from happening after orgasm. it’s not an option to give up orgasms altogether… not yet, anyway. so… i do believe a less-than-optimal estrogen level can be the cause, sometimes, possibly even in a pre-menopausal woman, and more likely in a peri-menopausal or menopausal woman than a very young woman. the doctor’s advice is spot-on, otherwise, imo. infection and psychological reasons should be ruled out first by a doctor, and then it might be wise to check hormone levels, especially in women of a certain age-group.

  3. Ok so I’m a lesbian and about 2-3 weeks ago me and my girlfriend was having sex and we had no toys or anything like that and after we had sex inside my vaginal area started hurting really badly as my last bit of pee would come out Everytime I pee. But now it just hurts constantly

  4. I guess this is an old entry, but I wanted to respond anyway. It’s actually possible you think he’s hitting your g-spot, but that he’s hitting your cervix. If you’re feeling sore in your abdomen, that’s what it sounds like to me. Because I’ve had that happen LOTS of times.

    You should ask him not to thrust so hard/fast. A lot of men sort of jackhammer a bit. Try a slower rocking motion, with more shallow thrusting. His penis doesn’t need to go all the way to your cervix in order for him to have an orgasm.

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