What Is the Etiquette of Saucy Holiday Gifting?

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At what point in a relationship is it acceptable to give a gift that is sex-related — a high-end toy, perhaps, or a saucy costume or, say, a beginner’s guide to kink* (to offer a completely random example…)? After you’ve met each other’s parents? After you’ve met each other’s a-holes? After you’ve shared last names? Let us know what you think in the comments section below.

* We happen to think that 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink makes a fantastic holiday gift for booty calls, sisters-in-law, husbands and wives, book club friends, open-minded colleagues, anonymous White Elephant Party recipients…

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  1. This is one of those “if you have to ask, don’t” situations.

    If you know the person well enough to know they’d be comfortable with a sex-themed present, go for it. If you’re not sure, don’t give it as a present. Bring it up at a less emotionally fraught time. Don’t gift something you’re uncertain about when they may feel obligated to like or want it just on the basis of it being a present and trying to not seem like they’re being sex-negative.

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