Wise Guys: Do Men Like Crazy Positions in Bed?

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Are most guys really into tackling crazy sexual positions (e.g. the wheelbarrow) or are most men completely happy with the standards (e.g. missionary, woman on top, etc)? If it’s the former, why?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Married Straight Guy (Ben D.): You see this in the movies and that is where it should stay. Call me boring but I like the basic three (in no particular order): missionary, woman on top, and doggy. Of course, if my partner requests something, I’m more than happy to obligee. If the wheelbarrow is the best way for you to orgasm, then I’m all for it. However, speaking from experience, extreme positions are more a novelty that you may start out in, but you finish in one of the basic three.

Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): I’m all for adventure and trying new things, but I can’t say that the best sex I’ve had was in a crazy, contorted position. I like to change things up every now and then, though. And what better way than to explore new positions? Sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t — and when they don’t, I usually get a good laugh from it with the other person. So either way, take a walk on the wild side every now and then. It’s fun!

Single Gay Guy (Abraham Zeus Zapata): I’ve found trying sex positions to be much like performing karaoke songs — I tried them out on people I didn’t emotionally care about. I knew that I could make a fool out of myself and that I would never have to see those people again. I learned what I was good at, what felt good for me, what felt good for others, what is cringe inducing, and what will get you booed off stage and to never visit that part of town again. I began to build a repertoire of “standards”; ones that worked for me (Like “Rhinestone Cowboy”; the song and sexual position) — and then I found the right person who I can make sweet harmony with (insert studio groan here).

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Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Single Gay Guy is Abraham Zeus Zapata, an actor, writer and artist living in the Houston area; our Single Straight Guy is Scott Phrenetik, who moonlights as a DJ in Dallas; and our Married Straight Guy is Ben D., a former professional fighter who would now much rather spend time with his wife and baby son than get punched in the face by a sweaty man. To ask the guys your own question, click here.


  1. I…

    I’m going to be a little iconoclastic here and say that if one assumes the purpose of all intercourse positions is to produce an orgasm for one or both partners (or, more ridiculously, conception) then you’re sort of missing the point.

    Sex is not always a solemn occasion. Nor is it always a sensation-optimizing exercise. Sometimes it’s silly, sometimes it’s experimental, and sometimes it’s just for fun. Some of the canonical “1,001 positions” are the intercourse equivalents of putting lampshades on each other’s heads: you don’t do it because it’s “sexy,” you do it because you both get a nice, bonding laugh out of it.


  2. I feel like most guys only want to do crazy positions if they think they’re girlfriends/partners are going to like it more, not because they think they’ll like it more. At least, this is my personal experience. I find that I like sex the most when my girlfriend is enjoying it the most.

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