My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me

Dear Em & Lo,

About six months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months and have recently met someone new. The other day the new boy and I were engaging in some hands-on action which led me to discover that he nowhere near measured up to my ex. The new boy was around 4-6″. My problem is that I’m really worried about having sex with him because my ex was over 8″. I feel really disappointed and I know that 8″ is a high bar that’s been set. Am I bad person or should I go looking for something more? Why can’t good-looking men come with the measurements of their penis tattooed onto their wrist or something? The problems and surprises that would solve.


Dear Sizeist,

We almost didn’t print your letter because of the emotional damage it might inflict on insecure men everywhere. It’s the secret fear that everyone — male and female — experiences at some point in their hook-up life: Am I being compared to their ex(es)? And if so, am I failing to measure up?

But on behalf of all the average-sized men out there, i.e. the vast majority of men, we think you should give Mr. 4-6″ a chance. It’s not like you’ve dated a string of 8″ men and have discovered that only a super-sized schlong can satisfy you. (In fact, you need to understand that, statistically speaking, 8 inches is freakishly long). No, you just had one great experience with one 8″ penis. And this is by no means a guarantee that sex with a 4-6″ penis will feel only 50-75% as great.

For a start, men with big swinging dicks can get lazy in the sack, assuming that size is the only thing that matters. They may also assume that intercourse is the only thing that matters — and we all know how few women climax from intercourse alone; remember, orgasm achieved through non-penile means still counts as sex! Not to mention, you may suddenly discover new penetration positions that you really enjoy — positions that perhaps were not so comfortable with a larger specimen. Oh, and don’t forget that, when it comes to size, most women agree that girth is a lot more important than length, since the majority of sensation is felt in the outer third of the vagina, thanks to the extensions of the clitoris, the g-spot, and the pelvic floor muscles around the lower part of the vaginal canal (and also since a lot of women don’t enjoy having their cervix rammed).

On a final note: Maybe he was nervous and not fully inflated, as it were. Basically, you have no idea what sex is going to be like with this man. So if you dig him (and we surely hope the handwork you exchanged means that you do), why not find out whether the motion of his ocean can get the job done?

Of course, we can’t discount the fact that you may simply be less attracted to him (or not attracted to him at all) now that you’ve scoped out his unit — you like what you like.  This doesn’t make you a bad person, though you are severely limiting your dating options — at least until your tattoo idea catches on. We suppose you could post a personal ad specifying that only 8″-penis-owners need reply, but something tells us that’s not exactly the way to find the next Boyfriend of the Year. Here’s a better idea: Why not just spend some quality time with an average-sized penis and see if the experience converts you?

Here for the little people,

Em & Lo

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758 Comments on "My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me"

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1 day 4 hours ago

The size is not what matter, The smaller organ has a much greater erectile capacity than the larger one. The size of the flaccid or erect penis has absolutely nothing to do with its pleasure-giving qualities. The vagina has a great deal of elasticity and it can adapt to any size of the male organ, be it large or small. And finally, if you think a man is a man cause he guzzles beer or was born with a larger-than-thine appendage, think again. Can’t you see, Sir, the sands of time are dribbling through the hourglass?!

17 days 14 hours ago

My wife is cuckolding me. I really do not mind, since I love her and want her to be sexually fulfilled. This is just one area where I cannot help her (mine is just short of 4″). Why risk that she might start cheating. She has a fbuddy that she sees once a week and everyone is happy

1 month 8 hours ago

I feel like I should share my two cents on this topic. My boyfriend is about 4.5″ but the way I know this is because I just sort of did a measurement of what I know the size to be. The thing is, it never crosses my mind that he may be too small or too big or whatever. I just love making love to him and sometimes, believe it or not, some positions can actually hurt a little depending on whether my cervix is sitting low on those days. And I want to share with you this important thing… Read more »

Idk what's wrong with us
1 month 1 day ago

MEANT real shit

Idk what's wrong with us
1 month 1 day ago

She said high bar meaning the bar she set smh yo just have kids move on key note her woman are never satisfy even when they set the standard’s really shut.2 they’re bicthes sometimes take the hit and fire back she say your small ask by what standard’s ,she say your dick small who are you comparing me to if she hit with thum or,any that Bullshit 9 out of 10 a chick has a smell , 10 out of 10 and only at certain time pussy actually look pretty it’s the truth and I love that shit but it’s… Read more »

1 month 8 days ago

Have you ever considered the possibility that you might just have an abnormally large vagina? The average male penis worldwide is a tad over 5″ and for caucasians its more around 6″. If you can’t find enjoyment without a very large penis the problem is you, not your boyfriend. What women don’t understand is that when they keep ordering larger and larger vibrators they ARE stretching themselves out. Flesh stretches over time, ever seen an ear gauge? So after you’ve spent every night since age 17 slowly stretching out your penis don’t blame men for still being normal, we can’t… Read more »

1 month 8 days ago

I’m gay and this is a huge problem in the gay world, guy’s who are small usually end up enjoying bottoming and being done by a bigger dude. Gay guys can be “size queens” which I find just strange, as guys who usually are “size queens” have small knobs and I just think well what are you bringing to the table? Would you not just rather shut up about dick size? There is a definite difference but honestly if I like the guy his member is part of the package big or small.