6/17/09
My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me

Dear Em & Lo,

About six months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months and have recently met someone new. The other day the new boy and I were engaging in some hands-on action which led me to discover that he nowhere near measured up to my ex. The new boy was around 4-6″. My problem is that I’m really worried about having sex with him because my ex was over 8″. I feel really disappointed and I know that 8″ is a high bar that’s been set. Am I bad person or should I go looking for something more? Why can’t good-looking men come with the measurements of their penis tattooed onto their wrist or something? The problems and surprises that would solve.

–Sizeist

Dear Sizeist,

We almost didn’t print your letter because of the emotional damage it might inflict on insecure men everywhere. It’s the secret fear that everyone — male and female — experiences at some point in their hook-up life: Am I being compared to their ex(es)? And if so, am I failing to measure up?

But on behalf of all the average-sized men out there, i.e. the vast majority of men, we think you should give Mr. 4-6″ a chance. It’s not like you’ve dated a string of 8″ men and have discovered that only a super-sized schlong can satisfy you. (In fact, you need to understand that, statistically speaking, 8 inches is freakishly long). No, you just had one great experience with one 8″ penis. And this is by no means a guarantee that sex with a 4-6″ penis will feel only 50-75% as great.

For a start, men with big swinging dicks can get lazy in the sack, assuming that size is the only thing that matters. They may also assume that intercourse is the only thing that matters — and we all know how few women climax from intercourse alone; remember, orgasm achieved through non-penile means still counts as sex! Not to mention, you may suddenly discover new penetration positions that you really enjoy — positions that perhaps were not so comfortable with a larger specimen. Oh, and don’t forget that, when it comes to size, most women agree that girth is a lot more important than length, since the majority of sensation is felt in the outer third of the vagina, thanks to the extensions of the clitoris, the g-spot, and the pelvic floor muscles around the lower part of the vaginal canal (and also since a lot of women don’t enjoy having their cervix rammed).

On a final note: Maybe he was nervous and not fully inflated, as it were. Basically, you have no idea what sex is going to be like with this man. So if you dig him (and we surely hope the handwork you exchanged means that you do), why not find out whether the motion of his ocean can get the job done?

Of course, we can’t discount the fact that you may simply be less attracted to him (or not attracted to him at all) now that you’ve scoped out his unit — you like what you like.  This doesn’t make you a bad person, though you are severely limiting your dating options — at least until your tattoo idea catches on. We suppose you could post a personal ad specifying that only 8″-penis-owners need reply, but something tells us that’s not exactly the way to find the next Boyfriend of the Year. Here’s a better idea: Why not just spend some quality time with an average-sized penis and see if the experience converts you?

Here for the little people,

Em & Lo

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Gray
Gray
14 days 18 hours ago

I’d say just become a bit more playful. The sex can still be awesome i think, but if you need to be really filled at times either use a toy or better yet explore an open relationship. It takes a secure man to go that route, but the quality of a relationship is not defined by our monogamy. And you wouldn’t want men to advertise their penises sizes. A) it ruins the surprise, b) it will make it so cheap. If you need a guy who is really hung, just ask your friends.

John
John
1 month 10 days ago
Going to share something to make a point. My wife has a condition call endometriosis. Basically her “red army” is bigger than most and more painful. As such, she cannot bear children. Trying to adopt through the foster system which is not as easy as you’d think. I share that to bring up the point that it is her body and she cannot control that. I have no intention on leaving her. For one, we love each other. Also, it would be wrong to leave someone over something that person cannot control. The only reason to be with or not… Read more »
Johnny
Johnny
1 month 10 days ago

“How would you feel if there was something about you that you had no control over?”

Everyone’s got those.

ms tightandwet
ms tightandwet
1 month 17 days ago

Well I am a female with a very tight vagina and I prefer 4 inches but I do like at least two fingers thick so I prefer a small penis it makes me orgasm fast and good now I have had huge penises as well but my preference is what I like small.

Jav Mora
Jav Mora
3 months 20 hours ago

I am on of those 4-6 guys. but it is very thick. get compliments all the time about how thick it is. so i am not one bit worry about my size. i do get complaints that after a while the females vagina is a lot wider than before.

Small Junk
Small Junk
3 months 9 days ago

I lost my virginity to a girl who would tell me I didn’t measure up to her precvious baby arm boy friend and later spent 3 years in a committed relationship with a young 19 year old who let me know just how inadequate my 5.5 inches were.

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Chris
Chris
3 months 26 days ago

Why so many Vote Downs for SvenD?? I have a 4 inch penis and am also in a cuckold marriage. It’s been great for both of us! I love women that prefer larger men

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