Your Call: How Can I Feel Good After Gaining Weight?

Dear Em & Lo,

I hate how I look after gaining 40lbs in the last 5 years. I was only 115lbs. What should I do ? He thinks I’m sexy no matter what. How can I feel the same?

— Weighed Down

What should Weighed Down do?
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15 Comments on "Your Call: How Can I Feel Good After Gaining Weight?"

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Hey, thanks for the great article. Honestly, about three months ago I started a new dieting regime, I’ve been on the chubby side my entire adult life and I’ve tried everything. I found personally that the only thing that worked for me was hard work and putting the effort, take a look at this, it changed my life http://dietinghelp.gu.ma/. Good luck and thanks for the great article.

My situation is the opposite: I’ve lost a lot of weight (175 lbs, 40 lbs left to go) and while I look good *in* my new clothes, out of them – not so much. I got rid of 175 of weight, but I still have the skin it used to occupy. (we won’t talk about how my belly overlaps my underwear). I want to have plastic surgery done when I can afford it. I’m single again and would like to date, but I can’t imagine taking my clothes off in front of someone new. (Actually, I can imagine it and… Read more »
Madamoiselle L

Great advice, k. 😀

A few tips, from personal experience: 1. Losing weight can be very difficult, based on your body type, lifestyle, level of dedication to weight loss, and so forth. Building muscle only takes effort and commitment. Basically, diets can be a struggle and aren’t always successful, but having muscle tone will improve the appearance of your body no matter what you weigh. Finding an exercise plan that will build muscle tone and sticking to it will produce results like a flat tummy and nice legs, no matter what clothing size you happen to be. 2. If you do diet or exercise,… Read more »
I think it really is all about how you feel in your own skin. I recently faced a similar problem. I’m 5’7” and weigh about 113 (size 2) but recently started really losing my feeling of sexiness because I had let myself get soft. My husband thinks I look great, though he still remarks that I’d look better if I gained weight. I had two choices, accept me ‘as is’ or get serious about my workouts. I chose getting more serious about my workouts because I need to be comfortable in the mirror and I don’t listen (believe) what other… Read more »

SparkPeople.com was a great help for me. For myself, the healthier I am the better my self-confidence. Focus on eating good foods and exercising, and the confidence will come, and maybe a bit of weight will go.


A great bumper sticker I have hanging in my house: “Change how you see, not how you look”